wud u think im a homophobe if i called him a gay booty punk? and worse?

Question

i love gay people and might go bi one day. but this gay dude who works with me is sooooo messy and evil he makes me want to puke. i want to say nasty things to him about him being gay cuz he is in the closet. but im not a homophobe i just want to hit him where it hurts cuz hes always being nasty to me. i dont know what else to attack him with. so i wonder will it make me a bad person to do this like will gay men hate me now?

gay dudes if ur str8 friend went off on a gay dude poking fun at his gayness to make him see taht its not fun to hate on others would u hate them after that or stay being their friend?

he is sooooo effin annoyz and everyday he says something nasty about me and eveyone know he gay but i just want to call him out soooo bad.

ok ill make it simple

if i use bad homophobic words against a gay dude who is always gossiping about me just to teach him a lesson that its not nice to be mean will i be considered a
homophobe?

I dont have gays i love em but its this ONE guy I just have to put in his place. and i just want to see the look on his face. thats all. its not coming from the heart just to be mean like he is to me.

so will it make me a homophobic person just to use the words to make him feel bad even though i dont belive in them?

Answer 1

Yeah, i'm gay, and i think you're in the right here. While i don't agree necessarily with your desire to personally attack him like that even though he is nasty to you, it has little to nothing to do with you attacking gays specifically.

Gay or not, he shouldn't be hating and attacking other people or being nasty to you. But then you have to consider what will really be the consequences to you and everyone involved if you attack him back.

There is quite enough hatred and homophobia and prejudice against gays nowadays, but then again, there's hatred and prejudice against many groups and individuals nowadays. In this case, he (and any others observing the whole thing) should see that you're not attacking him BECAUSE he's gay, but just as a way to "give him a taste of his own medicine".

But again, try to do this attack on him just to the extent that you need to without going too far, or carrying other people into it, or other wise getting too nasty or hurtful yourself. The purpose ultimately should only be to help him see the error of his own ways, not to cause him too much harm or to inflame him.

And if this is where you work, please consider that whatever you do excessively, whether to this guy or otherwise, might just have negative consequences with other people that you just can't see right now! Be careful if you like or value your job!

P.S.- Even though i'm gay, if there was a gay guy who was being nasty with me to the point that i felt exhausted or frustrated to the point of not knowing what to do, and i knew that it would push his buttons, i would play the "gay card" too! Gotta do what you gotta do... just be careful not to go too far.

Answer 2

The term is still homophobe. A homophobic person has a fear or irrational aversion to homosexuals or homosexuality. So if you have a medical phobia of homosexual sex, you are a homophobe. And if you have an irrational aversion to gay people, you are a homophobe. And just because a country gives its citizens equal rights, that doesn't mean that none of its citizens are bigoted against certain minorities. There are still people in America who hate blacks, despite the fact that America grants black people full equal rights. A bigot is a bigot, whether or not the people who they are bigoted against are fully protected under the law.

Answer 3

Here's the thing- he may be acting like an asshole, but it doesn't make a difference. The fact that he's gay doesn't actually bother you, so you shouldn't be insulting that about him. Call him an asshole if that's what you think, but if you're gonna "call him out", call him out for something real, something that's truly a problem. I doubt that, if he's really the bastard you make him out to be, calling him an asshole will have any effect, but at least he'll know what you really think of him, and not some insult that you manufactured just to hurt him or piss him off.

Answer 4

Why do you have the need to attack this person through his sexuality. His sexual preference doesn't make him act the way he acts toward you. There's something deeper as to why he's treating you this way.

Attacking someone using their sexual preference as the basis for the attack is just plain stupid, and you wouldn't like it if they did it to you. Yes....I would consider you a gay-basher if you did this.

What would you do if the guy was totally straight?

Don't stoop to his level.
Gay-bashing in the workplace is considered causing a hostile environment. Don't lose your job over it.

Answer 5

God says, if you want to put him in his place then do it in a way that will hurt him the most, basically by being a better *****, but not by being a homophobe. Dont' be nasty to him because he's gay. For example say things like ..."don't you know how to pick colors".... or ..... "are you putting on weight" .....or...."I saw you shopping in wallmart" ..... or .... "is that a pimple" etc. Scarcasm will win everytime, you just got to be better at it. God says, learn a load of one line put downs.

Answer 6

I know you can use the gay thing against him but maybe think about being the bigger person and maybe retaliating without using his sexuality - that may be spuring him on more.

I don't know how you can deal with those people. I don't know why they are like that - messy evil people.

Answer 7

Why not try calling on him for what he is doing that makes you angry instead of insulting him for something that you know he can't help or change.I know you mentioned that you like gays and perhaps may explore that side of yourself, but insulting people for who they are is never "ok".

If he is messy then tell him!If he is a slob then call him on it!If he is a jerk then that word would be the right word to call him-a jerk. But calling him derogatory names based on his sexuality would make you the bad guy.

You want to be the good guy?You want to be the adult?Then call him on what he is doing and not who he is.

Answer 8

Sounds like you're a little frustrated about being in the closet.

Answer 9

yep if its gay its gay you have the right to annoy till you asre totally satified and the hono is laying on the floor crying

Answer 10

yes that would be so mean. just go up to him and tell him that you would like to talk to him about something so people around you won't say anything bad about you or him.