We just had a child 3 mounth ago and I agreed that I will work more hours to help out around the house. But when I get home I end up having to cook dinner for both of us, clean the house and wash clothes. She said that she facing post partom depression and I understand that happens. This is my first child and I wonder is O.K for me to be so stressed out and mad about this.
2006-10-12 19:11:12 · 12 answers · asked by big bear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes! You need to snap her out of it. Unless she's having crying spells for no reason then I can see it as post partom depression, but it won't get better if she doesn't move on. She can at least cook dinner. I know a woman who manages with 5 kids. marriage is 50/50 I am a military wife with health problems working two work at home businesses. My husband comes home to a clean house and dinner on the table. If He has time off he helps me by cooking a meal or two and doing dishes but I have never had to ask. I guess I'm just lucky to have a great husband, and your wife is very lucky to have you but don't let her get to use to you doing it all or this will continue for a long time.
2006-10-13 14:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah you should be upset why should you work a full day and have to come home and clean i could see if she was working even part time but she is not what does she do with all her time and your child is three months not even crawling its not like she has to chase him around and juggle chores at the same time that's just lazy she should have the house spotless and a warm meal by the time you get home alot of working mothers would kill for a deal like that but just cant afford that she seems like she is taking advantage of a good situation while you break your back it takes two in a marriage it never works with one doing all the work
2006-10-12 19:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women used to have help with babies at one time until people migrated here to the usa centuries ago...women used to die giving birth and children died young. So we are trying now to raise babies without the help of family members and some women just cant do it on their own, really. She needs someone to help her. Be the young strong loving man that you are for you wife and child. She bore the baby for 9 mos and the child is only 3 mos old!!
Think of this time as a return on your investment years to come. Bond with your baby, be patient with your wife, leave some of the chores to hired help such as housekeeping and laundry so she can bond with the baby.
Pick up a roasted chicken at the grocery on your way home! Let her focus on the baby and herself/health and you dont put any stress on her so your marriage can stay strong and sweet. These early times stressing will just affect everyone. God bless you....carry some of the burden for a while. Its not like youre plowing acres of land from sunup to sundown.
;) Peace.
2006-10-12 19:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and see if she's not just taking advantage of your kindness by being lazy around the house while you do everything around the house and hold a job. Yeah, she might be depressed, but tell her it'll help her get over her depression if she focused on other things and also if she does things around the house rather than just sit around feeling depressed!
2006-10-12 19:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by VIP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post Partum depression is serious, amybe you should take her to the doctor so she can get some depression medication.
In any event, the worst thing you can do is make her feel useless, lazy and unloved.
Just help her through this time with love and compassion.
2006-10-12 19:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by ninjachik1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually since you seem to understand that this could be the result of post partum depression, you should actually get your wife/gf ( you didn't mention what she is) to see her doctor, who can recommend a psychiatrist who she can see for treatment of the condition. In many cases women suffering from this condition have hurt their children..You don't want that to happen to yours, so get her to a doctor for treatment.
2006-10-12 19:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong about the way you are feeling. Although I sympathize for her....she needs to do something about it...whether she goes in for help for her depression or she attempts to work through it without a professional. Sitting and doing nothing will only make it worse.
*elizabeth
2006-10-12 19:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by sub_katie_73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know most likely working is going to make your wife feel better. Explain to her that your duties include your job and her duties include the household. Marriage is all about cooperation,teamwok and friendship. Talk to her about this. and take her out to dinner sometime if deppression is what she is suffering from. I hope that helps XD
2006-10-12 19:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by 2Bold2Btold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is normal and it will pass....tell her how you feel and see what she says. Maybe she should see her doctor about her depression. I would tell her what you would like to see done while your at work. Things are going to be stressful for awhile, you have a new baby.
2006-10-12 19:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...she gave birth to your child..she passed human from her vagina, making a couple of grilled cheese samwiches and runing the sweeper wont kill ya, giver her some time
2006-10-12 19:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋