I keep thinking how far along I would be if I was still pregnant. Is it healthy to keep thinking this way?
2006-10-12 18:48:24 · 12 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is very common to do such thing. Not necessary healthy but hey, everyone deals with miscarriages in there own way. Time is the best healer, and with time you will notice that the thought will start to fade, not go away entirely but it won't be so constant.... You will never forget it and it will play in your head repeatedly and very clear, but the question will always be there. Do not blame your self, and don't let depression win, this is what is not healthy.... Stay strong,it is okay to cry and normal to feel as if you didn't do enough, keep a clear head, god only knows why? never question his actions, he will only give us what we are able to handle, and don't be angry, just take it and learn from it.... God is with you, and you are only able to see one set of footprints because this is when he carries you..... I'm sorry for your lost. Vee....
2006-10-12 19:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by VANESSA F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this happened to you. My advice would be to talk to your partner about how your feeling. Your doc would also be a good person to confide in. Take care of yourself and don't listen to other cruel remarks. You are completely normal and the loss will have you in shock for a while but try to do something to find closure. For example if the nursery was already set up, try to store most of it away but keep a few comfort items to remind you of your loss so that you can connect with the fact that this baby was real and with time you will find peace that your little angel is in a better place and playing happily in heaven. God bless you.
2006-10-13 02:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common to do such thing. Not necessary healthy but hey, everyone deals with miscarriages in there own way. Time is the best healer, and with time you will notice that the thought will start to fade, not go away entirely but it won't be so constant.
2006-10-13 02:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by sach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. My baby was going to be born in April of 1997 and I still remember that. I have 3 children now and I always think of the baby that I lost. Just know that your baby is in God's hands and in your heart always. I'm so sorry you went through this and talk to someone (even just a friend) about what you are thinking. If you need to talk you can always e-mail me. Let me know and I will give you my e-mail address.
2006-10-13 01:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not healthy to think that way. You are tearing yourself up inside by doing that. I don't think anyone can get over a miscarriage, Don't think you have to right away. Go talk to someone, it might make you feel better. Take care!!
Yeah...Joe you suck!!!!!!!
2006-10-13 01:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like every traumatic event in your life you have to grieve. When your anticipated due date arrives, that will be a hard day as well.
I can only tell you that you know in your heart how long you should feel this way. If it goes on too long, seek counseling.
I think it is healthy for you to feel as you do.
2006-10-13 02:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me exactly six months! I found out on my birthday, six months after I miscarriaged that I was pregnant again! This was 8 years ago! I now have three beauiful healthy children.
2006-10-13 04:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anna13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not healthy and you probably will never get over it. as long as you are still living life I am sure you'll be ok. try to contol your remorse by setting a certain day to dedicate to the unborn baby. an entire day once a year
2006-10-13 02:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal to think about the possibilities long after you miscarry. At least it was for me.
2006-10-13 01:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by D J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go through a mourning process. You can name your baby and have a ritual to say goodbye! It may help you to heal! I'm sorry for your loss!
and Joe......you're an a**hole!
2006-10-13 01:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ambervisions 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋