how come when riding or when im on top i feel like i cant do anything..i mean i feel it but its just uncofortable i feel like im stuck .. what the best way to ride...? Ive seen porn and it looks like a piece of cake a pleasureable , but when it comes down to it its sooo difficult? do i hold it and rid up what the rythm method??
2006-10-12 18:43:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're kidding right ?
2006-10-12 18:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by g_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married for a long time and hated being on top too. Then I got with a man that made being on top one of the most pleasurable positions in the world. What he would do is put his hands on my hips and help guide me in a rhythm. I never did get a good rythm going because I would end up getting too excited and c*m, which makes rythm impossible! He didn't care, he loved watching me c*m like that. My advice would be to start out moving up and down slowly. Have your partner grasp either your hips or put his hands under your butt you help you with the motion. If you don't find pleasure in it stop. You may also want to try the reverse cowgirl position. You are still on top but are facing his feet. In either position remember you can lean forward onto your arms to take some of the pressure off of your hips. Also in this position you can stay still and your partner can move his hips up and down. That way you still get hte sensation but he is the one that sets the rythym and does most of the work. Good luck. Have fun trying new things!
2006-10-12 18:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Stephani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems you deem this particular position as one which you are most vulnerable, and this limits and "freezes" you from performing. I mean, you're being viewed, subjected, the person can see you, so you're almost in a performance stage, and perhaps you don't feel like you're either "acting" in a particular manner, or you feel insecure about being judged.
It's pretty normal, in fact, it's easier to bury your head in a pillow, then to really look into a person's eyes and have them see you for what you are, and see them for what they are in that intimate setting. You aren't a porn star, and those scenes are scripted, cut, edited, and sound is added... so you will NEVER measure up to them. He's not thinking about it as much as you are, so try and unwind if you can.. and enjoy!
2006-10-12 18:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by Manatee 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You have all the control on top!!! Do what feels good to you!! You don't have to hold it- unless you want to- bore in and go for it!!!!! I like being on top best- it almost guarantees a BiG O for me every time- and I think my husband has gotten too lazy to be on top!!! lol- oh well- up n dn is ok- it is the forward thrusts that pop my cork!! Try and see what works best for you- the porno crap is all acting- don't even go there!! d
2006-10-12 18:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to learn is listen to your favorite songs while riding or just think of them then kinda move your hips like your dancing to them and it will start to come naturally, also maybe him watching you makes it more uncomfortable try riding backwards its a more comfortable position for you and it doesn't matter what u do they seem to love it i think they feel it better. my favorite is called froggystyle when he is lying there put your feet on the bed around him in a frog like position and just gently hop up and down on it, easier and not that much work and he will love it because it goes all the way in and out.
2006-10-12 18:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I feel the EXACT same way!
In porn girls are riding it like a pro in their 7 inch heels! But that's exactly what they are - PROS! They do this for their job and for money, we don't!
Try different positions on top - like with your feet on the bed, with your knees touching the bed, and then holding the bed frame. The bedrame one is easier than the others because you have some support.
Good luck riding!
2006-10-12 18:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by cutiewithabooooty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sh*t i feel the same way too, i'm a short person, so i don't have long legs, and it is very uncomfortable, cause for me, i don't feel the sex, it doesn't feel good. So my husband always do all the work, i'll give him some really good blow jobs from time to time, but we only do it when he wants to anyways, so thats why i don't go on top. When i want to, he's not in the mood.
2006-10-12 19:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Girlish 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's awesome on top, Don't try to do what you see just try different things and find out what feels good to you.
2006-10-12 18:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mitzi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your partner. It seems to me that you're thinking about it too much and not enjoying it. Stop thinking so much and just do whatever feels right and is comfortable for both or you.
2006-10-12 18:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Alucard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try placeing a towel or a club headcover under your right arm pit (for right handed golfers). Take a normal swing and try to hold it there untill your follow through.
2016-03-18 08:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋