2006-10-12 18:34:13 · 31 answers · asked by Prashant R 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It can be normal, but it is still wrong. A human being is not a possession.
2006-10-12 18:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by kepjr100 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can be normal, it is jealousy and a fear of loosing someone you love so much. Even if you mistreat or even cheat, you may be possessive in not wanting someone else to come along and take what you perceive as already yours. If a couple divorces for example and one wants it and the other does not, that is a terrible and time consuming pain, it is the same. The human spirit is not a simple one and what is normal for some is not for others, male or female and hormones as well come in play including your past. The more someone is hurt by love and relationships, the more they will become possessive and there is little they can do about it internally, just realize the more you try to control someone the more chances you will lose them, if not physically then mentally you can loose what you hope to have.
2006-10-13 04:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with kepjr100...it can be a normal behavior for some people, but it is wrong to treat someone that you love as a possession or a piece of property. Possessiveness comes from jealousy and thats not a good thing in a relationship. If YOU are the one being treated as a possession by your "significant other" then I would advise you take a step back and take a closer look at the relationship. Decide whether you want to be a possesion to someone or do you want to be loved for who you are. It might surprise you what you see from a distance. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-13 02:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possessiveness comes whether you like it or not. As for you it is normal. Others might see you as becoming childlike . We are all aware that we were possessive of our things when very young. Those were harmless possessiveness. You outgrew them over a period of time and went on to another.
Similar possessiveness with respect to someone you love leads you to choking the other. You , now, know that this is not a toy like thing but much more than that . hence you want to hold on to it for dear life. That is certainly bad., though it is normal.
2006-10-13 04:24:15 · answer #4 · answered by YD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be possessive towards somebody u love, but until it is in limits. It must not occupy the other persons space. It should not supress the other persons freedom and thoughts.
2006-10-13 03:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by sunanda n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people manage their relationships along with everything else in their lives trying to give everything equal time. Other people become a part of their relationships and always put their relationships first. It depends on which type you are and you need to be with the same type.
Some people like the feeling of belonging to someone and would say that their love transfers ownership. They normally expect the gift to be accepted and expect to receive ownership of the other person in return. This involves a lot of trust. People in these relationships, if they are successful, usually put the other person's needs and desires above their own. Some people feel like this imposes on their individuality and freedom. People in these relationships usually take care of themselves. Neither is abnormal. You just need to be with a like partner.
2006-10-13 02:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural. If youy look around nature in the animal world, then also you will find examples. But the problem is that we are humans and are supposed to be different. We should respect individuality of of a person. Being posseive does not mean you interfere in the liberty of the person you love. This may not go down well with the other person if he or she loves his fredom. Be protective, not possesive.
2006-10-13 01:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by rups 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call that common, but not normal. You can diagnose it, name it, flip it, turn it around, and look at it again, and it'll still be wrong. ex: That's the difference when someone is kidnapped as opposed to stolen (see how the words are different?). You give a list of possessions to a cop when things were stolen from your home. You give a cop a list of someone's description when he or she has been kidnapped. Things are stolen. People are kidnapped.
2006-10-13 01:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Teoshe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we love someone, we want to do everything to that person because they become precious and most important to us. We want to make the person feel most comfortable, we get concerned which takes the shape of possession. It is normal, but it can affect the loved if he/she doesn't understand this concept.
2006-10-15 10:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Deepa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t is normal for a child to possessive. You need to develop non-attachment as you grow. There is a saying in Tamil, the rough translation of which reads is like this:
" Kill thy love ...Kill thy love
Kill thy love, even if it be with God"
Attachment with one object fixes with one object and thus becomes an obsession. Attachment should give way to compassion and concern and that would be possible if you are from the obsession with a single object of love.
2006-10-13 02:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋