Some one told",There are signs like he never takes showers at home at less not every day yet hes always clean and fresh.
he never comes to bed ,when he comes home in the morning from work[4 am}I also think he has a nother phone number or message center on his phone. I know he needs to be real about this before It gets worst but he is not!! he laughs and talks in his sleep alot He never get voicmail only text messages like call me back or ergant He always say's he dont have moneyand theres alway somthing missing or diffrent In the house he Once told me It was spigette sauce on his under Wear but i was gold with sparkels in them and no smell he was riding around with a bottel of club soda in the car like he neede to remove stains' somtimes he makes me feel like I"m crazy I pray that god gives me strangth to understand some times,i even feel like maybe I"m just imagineing this yet some thing else coms up andBoom doubt agin!
What do i do ??? I try not to let it stress me out! It dose.
2006-10-12 18:23:00 · 21 answers · asked by Inlove4ever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce hI'm now before he leaves you. If you have doubts its for a good reason. You would not feel this way unless you had reason. 2 things here either this a bogus question or you are just kidding yourself. The signs you have recounted here are so obvious. Confront im, if he lies, call him a liar and kick his butt out, if he confesses try marriage counseling. The End
2006-10-12 18:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by twysty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you have all the facts. Now the ball is in your court. You can't change him. He's doing what he's going to do. You have some choices to make. But first of all let me say this: nothing is more tired and irritating than a person who's always whining about what their mate has done to them but they keep going back to the person. If you're ready to make a move for yourself make it. If not,spare everyone else your sob story. If your not ready to do something about your problem all you're doing is wasting everyone's time. I'm not trying to sound hard, I sympathize with what you're going through. I know it must hurt. But if he's cheating on you then evidently he doesn't care about your pain. People can feel sorry for you and give you advice but ultimately the only one that can DO anything about your pain is you. The choices are never easy in this situation but you need to look at the long run. You can stay and whine and cry and drag the pain out and suffer or you can deal with it now. You may have to end the relationship and hurt big time for a minute but at least you'l be on the way to healing. If you are married then you need to confront him to see if there may be some way to salvage the relationship. Don't be so intent on playing the victim. Try to see what part you may have played in what happened. Usually these things are a two-way street. Even if we think we did everything the best we knew how, then it could jus be our fault we picked a dog and we knew he was a dog somewhere along the line. Admit you made a mistake, let it go, get on and work on your emotional health so you don't have to make the same mistake again.
2006-10-12 18:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing kills a marriage faster than doubt. You need proof, so start keeping an eye on him. Once you get your proof than you can confront him and put this relationship to rest and move on. For now, stop accusing him of things and reading into everything he does. In other words quit looking for trouble where it doesn't exist. No proof equals no problem. Cheating is a symptom, not a problem. Now would be a good time to work on any problems that may exist in your marriage, because if he is cheating it is only a matter of time before the truth comes out and then you are not going to be so eager to work on your marriage. If you can save it now, before the cheating occurs or continues it would be in both of your best interest. Take care of you.
2006-10-12 18:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...lets try to use the spell check alittle more. Its hard to take a woman seriously when every other word is jacked up...lol.
If you THINK he is cheating most likely he is. The real question is why are YOU staying? He isn't going to stop- and if you stick around now and dont do anything about - he is going to take it as a 'free card" to continue this game. WOMAN UP- find a guy who will love and want only you.
2006-10-12 18:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by KA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when a woman suspects a man of cheating on her.. 9 out of 10 times her womans intuition is correct. I say its time for you to do some investigating. Maybe follow him 1 day or have a friend follow him. The best way would be to tell him that youre going out of town for the weekend maybe to your mothers or sisters place. If he is cheating, he will welcome the free opportunity. Then instead of going away, follow him & see for yourself whats going on. No matter how bad it looks, wait until you are meant to get back to ask him what he got up to while you were away, then see how he lies. Thats when you tell him your mind.
2006-10-12 18:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to buy time from you. I think you know what to do. I mean... is he worth the price you pay to be his faithful loving wife? It will only get worse if you don't act now. It took my mother 40 years, before she realized what a moron my dad is. He displayed the same kind of behavior. Lately, just before they got divorced finally!!! he sold her brand new Bible to a pond shop so he'll have money to treat himself and his concubines. He'd go away for 3 days then come back, sober up, and get all cleaned, fresh change of clothes... which she was always careful to clean and iron for him... and on he would go again.
Your husband will do it to you as long as he can, as long as you don't do anyhting about that...
Good luck... keep us posted.
2006-10-12 18:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. He must have a strange job that keeps him out until 4 a.m. and so wide awake that he can't come to bed or does he sleep elsewhere. Make sure that your source that told you is correct. Other than someone catching him doing it and providing you with pictures or you catching him yourself I don't know how you will find out for sure. You obviously love your man and are trying to convince yourself that you are wrong
but you may be absolutely right.
2006-10-12 18:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we don't want to believe the truth - even when it is staring us in the face!! Especially when it is so painful- gee was he eating spaghetti in his underwear??? Oh please!! and does he shower at work or the gym??? He will keep doing his thing because there are no consequences- so he does not have to tell the truth or be real!! sorry- consider counseling w your pastor or priest- you have a tough road to travel-take care D
2006-10-12 18:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
typical scenario he probably is having an affair so now what do you do, well you could check your marriage and see what's wrong. Not what's wrong with you or him but what's wrong with the marriage. You could just leave, but i like the saying that goes, either lead, follow, or get out the way.
2006-10-12 18:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I've been there. I asked my man if he was seeing someone else. He said no. I asked if he was sleeping with anyone else. he said no. finally, I saw his game and asked the straight up version..."are you having sex with so and so" he said yes.
Ya see, the difference is this....*seeing someone* and *sleeping with* are too general. they leave question marks. *having sex with* leaves no room. its yes or no. If you KNOW he is and he says yes, deal with it accordingly. If you KNOW he is, and he says no, he a liar on top of being a cheater. boot him.
BUT if you arent 100% sure, if you are just fishing to rid your fears? find out for sure...private eyes arent cheap but they get the job done.
2006-10-12 18:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by L C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋