i am separated from my husband now for 4months. he doesn't give a anythingfor child support, but he steadly buy him tv cars furniture etc. for himself with no problem . I moved he move in the same complex and got a one bedroom just for him. we have two kids 8 and 12 girls. he didn't think about them at all. i need advice on how to relate to him about helping out with the kids. and money. he see his kids all the time i never once didn't let him see them. we separated for mental abuse, non communication on his part i got fed up and left. cound take it no longer.
2006-10-12 18:09:23 · 16 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU NEED TO GET THE COURT INVOLVED IN THIS HE
HAS RESPONSIBILITY TO YOUR GIRLS. AND HE NEED
TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE. HE GOT MONEY FOR EVERY
THING ELSE, HE SHOULD HAVE FOR HIS CHILDREN.
2006-10-12 18:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try mediation. It's a legal process where a 3rd person tries to sort out the major issues/problems between people and get some agreement on how to solve the problem, whether that's child support, visitation, etc.
He will have to participate in order for it to work and will not easily get away with being non-communicative or verbally or mentally abusive.
Mediation is not meant to be a confrontational process, though people may react in the meeting in a negative way. The court or your lawyer should be able to refer you to someone or you can look someone up in the yellow pages who offers this service. There is also a professional organization for mediators that can refer you.
If he won't participate in mediation, take it to the next level that he cannot weasel out of: GO TO COURT. Petition to have his wages garnished for child support, including back child support if you can get it and call it a day.
If he won't grow up and be a responsible parent AND adult, don't hesitate to get the court on your side in enforcing a child support order. You wouldn't have much else to lose by that point.
2006-10-12 18:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be held financially responsible for the kids. Get a court order for child support against him. He may think he's "getting even" with you by not paying child support but he's really hurting his kids and is being very selfish and immature. He has his top priorities all mixed up.
2006-10-12 18:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i am proud of you. you did the right thing and got your own place. good looking out for your kids cuz it wouldnt look nice to be dealing with that kind of situation in front of them. anyhow. with the money situation take him to court and you will most def get some money for his *** not payin for child support. if you cannot afford it everything will come into play ...God sees all and in the end your children will know what he has done. im pretty sure they know and he may not know it now .. but he will.. Keep your head up and God will take care of you like he has been. also Karma is a Bitc- yeha.. so he will get it.. the most important thing right now is that ur kids are happy and they get all the love they need from mommy....take care
2006-10-12 18:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not helping you at all, then you should contact your local social services and have him put on file to have him have to pay child support and with he will be granted visitation and he will also have to have somewhere where both of the children will have some kind of privacy at is home my mom had to do the same with my dad and without his help we did struggle and with his help things were alot better and another thing is if he doesn't pay it then that shows up on his credit report so all the extra spending he's doing will come to a stop, and he could also go to jail.
2006-10-12 18:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Emily F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what worked for me was when my boyfriend started doing for my kids what my husband wasn't. when he found out another man was taking care of them he straightened up kinda quickly...I know it sounds like game but sometimes showing is better than telling. And its no guarantees it will work. I got lucky.
Just a thought.
2006-10-12 18:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dani L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you do it the legal way and take him to court and demand child support.
2006-10-12 18:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess, it would be nice if you will go to a lawyer and asked him for advise because this is legal matters. this is the best way you can do right now. just think that you will do it for the sake of your children. as a legitimate children they have the right to ask for support. trust me they will get it.
2006-10-12 18:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes legal proceedings are the best way to handle such issues. Get a good lawyer and make him pay.
2006-10-12 18:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by answer_my_question 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my experience three jobs is way easier then one husband and trying to make him do anything is about as easy as pushing a car in park you are going to get no where fast you cant make a person do something they don't want to you are just going to end up frustrated and stressed
2006-10-12 18:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by rachelhaggerty82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support court time
2006-10-12 18:27:34 · answer #11 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋