How would you handle a superviser that doesnt like you for no reason?

Question

she seems to make me feel like no matter what I do it doesnt matter. She is careless and has shorted me on two pay checks for hours (they made up for it). Others who have done half the work have gotten more credit and even more oppurtunities. I work hard and before I became a part of her team I was confident and that has vanished since she seems to over look it anyways. I have over heard her cackle with another supervisor about people under her making me feel like she doesnt deserve to be a superviser. She makes up reasons to fail me on things and makes snide remarks about me and my boyfriend like "oh gee it must be so hard to have such a perfect man". When I go to her for anything she brushes it off. When I was shorted on my check she rolled her eyes as if it was a bother to her. I use to like my job, now I dred it. I went on vacation and while I was gone she just threw my check on my desk chair..we work with about 300 people in this building.

My sup changed my scedule and asked her yesterday about it and she said I worked my normal shift today so I came in just to find that I wasnt supose to....of course she isnt there today to ask why she told me that.

Answer 1

I can understand the position you are in. I am not against any
of the suggestions given here but there are situations where
they simply don’t work. For example, this supervisor may have
a much higher value than you to the company or she is very
influential thus more support than you have.

In life not everything is equal and fair. Also, you will come
across people who only care about their own interest, so what
if you complain to the higher authority.

As job satisfaction is probably the most important aspect in our
work, start looking for a new job if you are not happy. It is not
only the easiest way out, there is a good chance you don’t meet
a nasty one like your current supervisor. Good luck.

Answer 2

Are you prepared to or are able to leave this position and move on?
What I am going to suggest could help or make things worse.
1.Do you have a colleague you can trust who can approach your supervisor and in a round about way discuss you. Perhaps the colleague can get some idea of what is bugging her.
2.Try the direct approach. Tell her your feelings. You are un happy.You want to be successful and what do you have to do.
Do this formally, request a meeting, away from the work floor and have all your concerns written down. Such meetings can become emotional so you need to have an agenda.Do not be accusative, you are seeking help!
3. You could go over her head [if 2. does not work] to the next line of management and lodge a formal complaint. Make sure you have written down every incident ,time and date.
4. Talk to other co-workers. How do they find her?
5. Have a think about your own attitude. Is it a cause of the problem. Do you project an image that is threatening to her? By that I mean, makes her feel inadequate. Your comment about your boy-friend made me think that you may have come on a bit strong about what you have , etc. She may be jealous of your life-style and reacts in this way as a defence mechanism. "OK Miss Social Life, I'll show you who is boss around here".
Mistakes with rosters, hours worked, etc. happen in all organisations. Because you have developed this mind set with her you could be seeing a front office mistake as her's. How did you know she "just threw your check"?
Do you have a system of worker appraisals? Are you interviewed regularly about job satisfaction? These can be avenues for feed-back and in-put.
Please remember that what I am saying here is all based on supposition and no offence is meant. It has been my experience that the world is not full of bullies or people who go out of their way to be nasty to others. There are some, maybe you are unlucky in your supervisor or maybe you are doing something to aggravate the situation? Two sides to every story!! I hope this can help you see the problem clearly and decide on a course of action. Best of luck.

Answer 3

usually people like that hate confrontation, so confront her, but make sure when you do another manager is there as a witness. Documentation is everything. Keep a record of every encounter and everything she has done. Also write down a list of issues and concerns you have. here are the steps you should take:
1. Confront her
2. If problem persists...Confront her, and final warning if things do not change you will take measures into your own hands
3. Contact a manager higher in rank
4. Contact their manager and their manager....until you can not go any higher
5. Report to HR


Trust me, if she cherishes her job, she will shape up. HR is there to make sure that people do not get power hungry. All of this should be documented, and if there are other associates going through the same issues, it will begin to make a pattern. For all you know, she could have been transfered because she was on a final warning. This is your job too, and you should not dread coming to work or have to put up with mental abuse. She should act professional and be setting an example. She needs to take this opportunity as constructive criticism to make herself a better manager. If she can not do that, then she should not be managing people. The first thing you learn in any management class is to build effective relationships. hope this helps :)

Answer 4

I had this problem at my last job, but this was between guys and the friction was created by something very different. It sounds like she is jealous of you for whatever reason and has just decided not to like you. If she is your supervisor you must go over her head to her boss which would be a manager in whatever area you work in or the Human Resource dept. Even though this may cause more problems in the short-run it is at least on record, many companies now are very strict with how their supervisors treat people under them. These policies were created after the many murders at workplaces due to conflicts between employees. Any company that employes more than 300 workers should have very strict policies set in place just for this situation you are in. Speak up, its not a popular thing, I did it and it got me transfered to another dept. and then fired soon after, but my situation was much different I think than yours. Start documenting all these incidents, or even document past ones so you have a record and timeline of how your supervisor has acted, Good Luck.

Answer 5

First of all, keep doing your job to the best of your ability so she can't write you up for insubordination or give you low marks on your evals. Document everything she does that is improper. I mean write down dates, times, what was said or done and who was around.

Once you have documented the things she has done, take your case up the chain of command. Go to her supervisor first. If the situation isn't resolved or she tries to retalliate against you, go to human resources regarding her creating a hostile work enviroment. Remember to keep notes on who you talked to, the date and time, and who was present.

You should be able to file a grievance against her and ask for a transfer if you want out. If human resources doesn't handle the situation, you might have a case for the EEOC. Again, remember to take notes about the meeting with human resources.

As a back up plan, you can always keep your eye out for other jobs. Apply for anything you might be interested in. If you are offered a job elswhere, take it if it's obvious things will not work out or if you are just tired of where you're at ... you can also turn down the new job and opt to stay in the company you are with if things are resolved to your satisfaction.

Good luck!

Answer 6

First off, shorting you on your hours is ILLEGAL. You could save your clock out slips and if this is a recurring problem, go to the companies Human Resource department. Don't give her any any reason to fire you "be punctual, do your work and don't complain to her, but record everything that has been going on and more sooner then later this ***** will get fired. But definitely, go to someone higher then her and don't seem like a whiner, take your complaint clearly and firmly.

Answer 7

Nothing is more important to work for a good boss. Looks like she may be the kind of boss that is afraid of people who are more capable than she is. I would suggest you to transfer department. Continue working under her not only make you lose your confidence, but also may ruin your life. It is so not worth it. If it's impossible to switch department, look for a new job.

Answer 8

You should secretly start sending out your resume to other companies. There's plenty of work to be over-stressed for something you can help. Your integrity is at stake. If it's your desire for a death match, try talking to her, and her manager. Then, contact corporate and tell them you've been descriminated against, and you are planning to take legal measures. Scare the crap out of her.

Answer 9

oh no girl...you dont let anyone treat you that way. you should have said something when the first incedent occurred. im in the military and its very well structered. this is how we handle things....what you need to do is talk directly with her about your problem. it sucks but you need to try to resolve things at the lowest level possible. after talking to her about it and she disespects you in any way, even if its a look, you need to go to her supervisor. if your not satisfied with her answer keep going up the chain. dont let anyone disrespect you like this girl. take it all the way up to the damn owners if you have to. it will stop one way or another.
hope this helps?

Answer 10

Quit and move on, obviously your never gonna get anywhere with this company, Especially if they allow these kinds of company politics to go on.