If she had a male friend, and this friend is not gay?
I ask my boyfriend this question a couple months ago ... He switched the question around and ask me what would i THINK if he had a girl/ friend' ...I tought about it... I didnt like what i was picturing in my mind...i seen his point..But fellas' could there Ever be a way that an attractive female could have a friend of the opposite sex(also attractive)...and be trusted???...How do you men see it?(in your eyes )
2006-10-12 17:50:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
in my own experience it is possible as long as the this friend is friends with both people in the relationship.
My girlfriend is friends with all of my friends...all male...and it doesn't concern me at all.
She is also friends with other guys from before we met, I found I was insecure about this until I got to know them too. I guess its all about making your territory known. As long as you know the other person and get on well with them then there is no problem. its not knowing about the friend that causes insecurity,
2006-10-12 17:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by honkytonkface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is blind--and doesn't really need any further stresses than it already carries for either one in a couple relationship. And for most couples, isn't it asking too much trust for either in a straight relationship to have a platonic, straight friend of the opposite sex?
I can't discount the possibility such an arrangement can work, but it'd call for a LOT of strong trust from the other--and maybe this friend can be well known to both in the relationship for such friendships to even work.
Frankly, I don't know many people who carry such a strong sense of maturity to allow for such.
2006-10-13 01:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "friend" single, or has a girlfriend but you two don't want to hang out as a couple- That's wrong.
You can have whoever you want as a friend, what makes him attractive? You're attracted to him? Then dump the guy you're with for him you can't have both.
If it's just friendship that you seek- why does this guy have to be good looking?
Or have you already found the guy?
Are you waiting for your bf to say it's cool to spring it on him that you know exactly who this friend is?
If you never mentioned it to him and the friend came later- it'd be his tough luck and he'd just have to trust it- unless he caught you doing what I'm guessing you'd be doing.
I don't want to judge you but women who ask "hypothetical" questions are usually trying to get what they want or already have and aren't telling about...
Women who ask "what if" questions are into head games... Sorry- that's my opinion.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 00:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by superdink_dotcalm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your under 25 the risk for platonic friendships to go wet & wild increases exponentially.
2006-10-13 01:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by s t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there has to be ground rules from the very begining, no matter how he or she looks. As long as everyone is up front and honest with one another, ther should be no issues.
2006-10-13 00:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by egarrets147 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋