Is my husband pretending he's with the girls in the magazine when he's having sex with me?
2006-10-12 17:37:23 · 18 answers · asked by curiousin08 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fantasies are common and men are stimulated sexually by visual things, A lot of men look at magazines like playboy to make them horny but it doesnt mean that they imagine being with that person while they are having sex with their girlfriend/spouse... chances are if he is having sex with you he is imagining you, or maybe you and this other girl in the magazine which is no big deal. Guys who look at porn are statistically proven most likely not to cheat. I honestly wouldnt worry. My husband watches porn videos and we are both sexually open, which means he is pretty truthful with me because he has no fear that I am going to get angry with him, He says even when he fantasizes the girl doesnt take form of anyone specific, usually its just me and another girl doing things to him. Try not to let these little insecurities get in the way of your sex life, because most likely this isnt the case. Looking at porn is a normal thing for guys it doesnt mean they find their mate not sexually attractive, ofcourse if its affecting your self esteem you should talk to your husband about how you feel, and maybe it would put your mind at ease about these things. If he loves you and hes having sex with you, then thats who he wants, these girls in magazines are just fantasy girls, they dont even come close to the real thing...
take care
Ps. Dont listen to these people saying that he is imagining the girl because everyone is different, even if it is a possibility its not likely
2006-10-12 17:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was JUST talking about this subject. I cannot tolerate porn in my relationship. If your husband is worshipping someone elses body and you don't like it he has disrespected you in the worst way. It's not about you, it's about his broken compass. Love is not about being sexually perfect, it is not about perfect bodies or lust. It is not about your husbands needs, being a husband means he gives up his personal wants and focuses on how he can respect and love YOU. This is the type of intimacy that generates the most fulfilling relationships. Your body will grow old, but it's your spirit he needs to love. If he can't love anyone's spirit, then he does not know love. Sex is petty compared to a healthy marriage in which respect and selflessness takes precedence. Porno is cheap and disgusting. It involves exploitation of women and men for money. It misleads people to believe that perfection is what makes you turned on. He should be turned on by that fact you love him, and respect him and that you are this beautiful bright spirit that has blessed his life with love...and he should strive each day to do things that make you happy, as you should do for him. When we become selfish, we are mislead and unhappy. Yes, he is thinking about other women already. I find this intolerable.
And when women say they think it's fine I don't believe them one bit. I think they know in their hearts they are unhappy...it's delusional thinking, and desperate. No self esteem, none.
2006-10-12 17:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya it is very natural for a man that he attracks towards other women, and may predict stars in you when doing sex with u. But I don't think it is good. After merriage I never looks towards any one even no to Britny.
Try to satisfy him by so many types of sex as well as good food.
2006-10-12 17:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,and no. When he is with you he is not thinking about anything else but you.
(Well maybe sports or something to try to last longer), We are way to one tracked minded. If we could think and recall that vividly we wouldn't be buying more magazines.
2006-10-13 01:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course we do. but not in the way that he will cheat on you. and its not like he is imagining he is with them. its hard to explain. its more to just like knock one off, if you know what i mean. oh and its a curiosity thing too. dont stress. it only becomes an issue when it gets in the way of his life and sex with you. every guy looks at porn and any guy that doesnt is lying.
2006-10-12 17:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to ur 1st question YEA!!! to your second question MAYBE........so why dont you just imagine he's Brad Pitt while having sex =) ♥....oh and dont bring it up to him either he's deny it or not wanna talk about it at all....plus dress up sexy while u guys are together like a nice lace that was he doesnt have to imagine those playboy girls
Hope I helped
2006-10-12 17:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by ms_ricanluv88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to have to tell you this, but men are sooooo shallow. We are pathetically shallow, we are just wired to be turned on by visual images. Its not bad, its just the way we are. It doesn't reflect negatively on you at all, but it doesn't reflect negatively on your husband either because thats just the way guys are. I know it irritates women but its one of those things that just is what it is.
2006-10-12 17:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by jxt299 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes we get stimulated looking at porn but I doubt he visualizes them as you. Women are sexually stimulated emotionally. Men are stimulated visually.
2006-10-12 17:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly it all depends on the guy. Do you have a reason for feeling that he mght be doing this? have you asked him? You never know unless you ask the particular guy.
2006-10-12 17:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt he is pretending to be with them, but i am sure he is turned on by them, dont you like to look at a nice looking guy??
2006-10-12 17:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋