well am a 26 year old girl never had any physical relationship with a guy ..not even kissed...now after my two graduations and afer working i am about to get married...funny thing i dont know what my partner will feel if he sees me...i mean reactions and stuff on his face..another thing i have these black marks (called it spots) in my inner thigh ..some people say it could be due to weight..am 155cm tall with around 56 kg wieght...i am worried what my partner will think...and also its my first marriage proposal whereby the guy is a doctor and am a I.T person ..he is brought up in western society and me typical indian...wat advise if any u could give to help me understand my situation...does these things matter to guys? i mean body ...i think i have a very well structured body shape and am also very good looking..but that black marks worries me...how can i get rid of them...shoul di be nervous liek i am before marriage or am too shy at my age....pliz do adivse me ..elder women and girls
2006-10-12 17:23:32 · 16 answers · asked by Vinny C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Youll be fine.. Have no fear
2006-10-12 17:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor friend will be very understanding of the marks. He will let you know if they bother him and even be able to suggest how they can be dealt with. No body is perfect. Love sees beyond it. It does not sound like an arranged marriage so this should all be fine. He will admire a wife who is so well educated.
2006-10-12 17:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable in your culture that two people get married whit out even know each other but one thing is for sure He 'll won't be worry about those black spots of your inner legs my guess is that he will be more worried about (The spot in your between legs ) and if you're virgin like you said then He shouldn't have nothing to complain about it .
2006-10-12 17:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by danichris61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male Indian 24. I am younger than you and I live in western society. Indian men prefer to marry Indian women because they generally dont have physical relationships. ie. sex.. Some girls dont even have lover. So he will like you when you behave innocent. Now coming to marks, I dont understand what you mean be inner thigh. If it is toilet marks at your buttocks, it will be ignored as everyone has it. If you have marks in your vagina, it increases suspicion. It is easy to distinguish whether the girl had pre marital sex based on certain things. Men might look for hymen tissue in vagina. If it is ruptured, your story is finished. Secondly vagina might look dark (or labia of vagina may be out in a distinct way in some cases) and third very large breasts ( abnormally large, doesnt have look of young breasts which will sharp and pointing, ). Behavioural aspects. Virgin girls blink at first time of sex, they wont be physically active, they dont know what to do...... So many aspects. Finally I want to say one thing, men will discover whether the girl had sex before.
And If he is a doctor, he might have seen many vaginas (or might have studied atleast). So he might know married and unmarried ladies body.
Moreover the sharp eyes, sexy looks and married looks(it come always when he/she has sex) also increases suspicion.
Dont think doctors alone know it, many men knows these things.
Very Importantly, After having sex, the hymen tissue gets torn and blood comes out which will also be verified.
So many factors.
Good luck with your marriage!
2006-10-12 17:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by hindu saint 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry - it's normal to be apprehensive, esp. your first time, but none of us have "perfect bodies" - wait and see - I'll bet he has a flaw or two of his own somewhere, too, and you'll love him even so. Scars, blemishes, freckles - they just give us character. Don't let yours embarrass you. Just keep the lights off until you feel more comfortable and you'll be fine. It may help you to read up on sexual tech. just to educate yourself and make you more comfortable with things.
2006-10-12 17:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will like that you have unique qualities. It is a great thing that we are not all alike. He loves you, obviously, since you are getting married and will love you more after seeing the spots if he is a good man.
2006-10-12 17:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by MightyManMichael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie what r u worried about??? Im sure he's not perfect and has at least one flaw....u have some kind of skin problem, whats the big deal? Try to apply some kind of cream to help clear it up....but like I said dont expect him to be perfect you dont know what kind of problem he has, and like the rest of your answerers said if he loves you then that shouldnt matter
Good Luck ⥠=)
2006-10-12 17:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by ms_ricanluv88 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK honey...men don't care about those spots...lots of people have them. He just needs to know you won't hold back when it comes time to show him how much you care about him physically.
He probably won't even notice the spots.
My husband didn't. and doesn't care.
2006-10-12 18:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Dani L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY, if he LOVES you, then those spots shouldn't matter. Does he know your fears? Is he prepared to see them? He probaly won't even care at all. He is in love with who you are and what is in your heart. Not what you look like.
Best of luck to you!
2006-10-12 17:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by next.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you On the honeymoon night I'd grab the bed sheets and you will get the ride of your life
2006-10-12 17:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by John H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will love the marks too. It'a a part of who you are. Don't stress over it. Love the man you are with and all will fall into place.
2006-10-12 17:27:17 · answer #11 · answered by fijisun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋