2006-10-12 17:00:36 · 19 answers · asked by charlotte 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
1.) Try your best not to take it personally - this can be a really tough one!
2.) Be as firm & consistent in handling your child as you can possibly be (discipline or otherwise). Easier said then done at moments, but remind yourself you love your child even during those moments when they are acting like the spawn of the devil!
3.) Talk with your child. Let your child know that you love & support them. Try to (as objectively as possible) find out & understand what's behind/causing the behaviors. Sometimes it can take a little while for things to filter through to a parent about what's going on with their child. Consider & rule out physical, mental, emotional & psychological possibilities.
4.) Patience - Patience - Patience. Break things down into manageable bits and take them one step at a time.
5.) If things become overwhelming or overheated, be sure to give yourself (and your child) time and space to mentally & emotionally regroup.
6.) Use the internet to find even more resources - get creative!
7.) Focus on the postive!! Keep trying - You (all) can do it!!
2006-10-12 18:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him on a vaction to Home on the Range for Boys or Boys Town. Boys that keep getting into trouble wind up there eventually. Its a work farm for boys & yes they do work. If they think they don't have to. They spend their days in a room with 4 blank walls and a bed thats it. No CD players nothing. If they work they get the perks. It is no picnic & most of they boys there come in as real problems and leave as good citizens. They eventually see that their past is not the way to live. Most of the schools in our state take school trips once a year to one of these schools. To remind students that their is a way to handle unacceptable behavior. Most of the students get to talk to the kids that stay there & usually decide on their own that they would rather behave at home than be there.
I grew up in a generation that the only generation gap was between my fathers hand & my behind.
Since we live in a kinder more gentler time. Try the above first. If that doesnt work take him to a Police officer & let a Police officer explain the facts of what poor behavior will get him.
2006-10-13 00:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by oilfieldinsultant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You as his mother are being really selfish. The only thing you care about is how much it hurts the family, what about your son? Something is going on and my money is on the fact that he does not feel like part of the family. He needs attention and if he can't get it by being good then he will get it by being in trouble all the time. Bad attention is better than no attention at all.
2006-10-13 00:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by valarie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often Children act out in school and social situations for attention. I suggest just spending some time with him by himself. Dont reward him by taking him shopping, but go somewhere together like a park or a place where you can just talk to him and ask him questions. Let him know that his behavior is affecting your family in a negative way and ask him how he feels about it. Engage him in the conversation too so he cant just drift off, Make him internalize what your saying and respond with answers. Be patient as well. And make sure punishments fit the crime.
Also try to focus on postive accomplishments like a good grade or good report so it feels good to get good attention for a good accomplishment.
2006-10-13 00:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking he's a young teen maybe??? Send him to me... I'll show him how cool he is... he has to be held accountable for his actions or you might end up with a criminal... my house and my rules... I didn't care if my teenagers like me... you have to be tough yet understanding... I expressed my love freely but yet firming expressed what I expected... when mine were 14yo... I told them if they wanedt a car at 16yo... how they acted and the grades the got from that point on... would be what decide whether they drove one of my cars or had one of their own... and the peer pressure that exists is tough... for them to not give in to what others are doing... the kids that have parents that don't care can be hard to compete with... let him know that he may be getting away with these things now... but when he turns eighteen... they have jails for people that misbehave... ask him do you like money, nice cars and lots video equipment... well it takes and education and a good attitude to get out into the world and earn it... Hope this help!!! Good luck!!!
2006-10-13 00:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids today have no fear of punishment because sadly most of them just don't get any. Back when I was in school if we did something wrong we got our behinds burnt up. And if I got a spanking at school I also got one at home. We had a "fear" of doing something wrong because we knew we'd pay a price. There were never any weapons brought to school, no drugs. Everyone sits back and wonders what has happened to kids today. Maybe corporal punishment wasn't such a bad thing after all.
2006-10-13 00:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest seeing a family counselor. You need to figure out why it is happening, and how you can deal with it. There are no easy answers. Unfortunately you cannot control his behaviour, but you are in control over how you act in response to his behaviour, and there are a number of things you can do. But you need help to figure out the best possible response. The worst thing to do is to leave it alone and hope it goes away. Good luck!
2006-10-13 03:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY SON,NOW17YEARS OLD.... WAS IN THE 2ND. GRADE
GIVING TROUBLE..HIS DAD WORKED NOT 5 MILES FROM
THE SCHOOL.. HE WAS CALLED TO GET HIM ONE DAY BECAUSE HE SHOWED HIS BUTT A LOT..HIS DAD GOT OFF OF WORK, WENT TO THE SCHOOL, AND HAD A TALK WITH HIM.. LEFT, BUY THE TIME HE GOT BACK TO WORK-==
THEY HAD ALREADY CALLED AGAIN FOR HIM TO COME AND GET HIM....HE BROUGHT HIM HOME THAT TIME, TOOK
HIM INTO HIS ROOM AND TORE HIS *** UP....... WAITED 15 MINUTES THEN DONE IT AGAIN... AND AGAIN IN 15 MINUTES...AFTER THE FORTH TIME HE SAID--DADDY I
UNDERSTAND....I WONT DO IT NO MORE...... AND I JUST
CRYED......HE HAD TO LEARN AND HE'S NEVER GAVE ANYMORE PROBLEMS, HE'S 17 NOW PLAYS FOOTBALL
AND WRESTLES AND WERE A VERY CLOSE KNIT FAMILY....
2006-10-13 00:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The youth childrens always make some bad behaviours, the reasons they want to attentive some peoples pay attention on himself, so frequently make some unbearable stuffs, therefore you must spent more time on your kids to know or understand they needs /wants and thinks.
2006-10-13 00:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's trying to get attention sometimes any attention is ok kids think even bad attention try starting a day or evening that it is just him and you a movie even on tv or out to eat fast food is ok or playing a game with the whole family
2006-10-13 00:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by boss77386 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋