how can i get pregnant without him knowing it was planned?

Question

i want to get pregnat but my boyfriend dosent want to have a baby at all.

Answer 1

Break up with him.

If he stays with you, and you can live with the guilt of lying and being a horrible person, then youre left with possibly a resentful boyfriend. He could resent you and the baby, and if he REALLY didn't want kids at ALL this could lead him to be abusive (maybe not in a beating kind of way, but by being emotionally distant/rough with the baby - which is still horrible). If he breaks up with you youre making him pay child support for the next 18 years because of something he didn't want and you forced him to have anyways.

If he finds out you did it on purpose, that could intensify the feelings of resentment, probably to the point of hatred. Why would you want your baby to be around a father who hates the mother? Or a father who disappears entirely?

A baby needs two parents that want him/her and love him/her and love each other enough to respect each others wishes and wants. Not to be born into a relationship doomed to fail because of someones selfishness, and to have to be raised in the consequences.

Answer 2

It's not the "how you can" that's important, but rather "whether you should". By choosing to deceive your boyfriend, your making decisions that aren't really yours to make. Your baby deserves a loving mother and father. Realistically that doesn't always happen, but to plan that situation is not fair to your baby. Your b/f will also be put in a terrible situation. Either he'll leave in anger (and probably feel guilty) or stay most likely unhappily because of guilt and in either case you would have done that.

Please don't do this. You are condemning you and your baby to living with a big mistake. Healthy relationships are never built on dishonesty and manipulation and that's what you're considering.

If you love your b/f, you won't want to deceive him and put him into such a terrible position. And if all you want is a baby and you don't care all that much about your b/f's feelings, than you shouldn't be thinking of having a baby with him.

Since you're asking advice, it seems that maybe inside you realize this isn't a good idea. God bless you.

Answer 3

Do you have a good job to pay for the expense of having a child? Do you have a nice home to raise your child in? Are you ready to be a single mother? How old are you and your boyfriend? You are being selfish, that is the last thing you should be if you are going to be a good mother. Think of what's best for the baby, not what you want. If you want a family and he doesn't, leave him and try to find another man who would want a family someday. . What you are planning is very dishonest. How would you feel if parenthood was forced on you?

Answer 4

You should seriously consider the financial and emotional commitement that a baby is. Consider how the baby will be raised. If your boyfriend doesnt want to have a baby and isnt ready, just because you get pregnant, its not going to make him any more ready. Conside the unborn baby in question- is it fair to bring him or her up knowing he may or may not have a fully commited father? Besides that- Trying to have a baby behind the potential father's back is really just wrong. Patience is the answer to this question

Answer 5

maybe you should re-think your decision. It is not fair to your boyfriend to force him to be responsible for a child that he has clearly stated he does not want. There are many men out there that want to have children, and if that is something you want and he doesn't maybe you should think about ending your relationship. You can't force your decisions onto someone else. That is wrong. Talk to him and find out if he NEVER wants children or if he just wants to wait. He may feel he is not ready right now. Whatever the case may be, please don't bring an innocent life into this world in an already rocky situation.

Answer 6

then i wouldn't. first of all that is shady, and shady enough that i'd bet he would go running for the hills and claim it isn't him. you'll need all the support from him you can, financially and emotionally. if i was you bf i know i'd cut and run, and without a paternaty test or his name on the birth certificate, you have no hope of getting ANYTHING from him. i know i sound harsh and don't know the guy, that maybe he would stick around, but the fact is he apparently made it clear to you he isn't looking to be a father at this time, and you should respect that or find a man who wants that right now. it isn't right to go behind his back and do that. it is shady, dirty, and just down right wrong!

Answer 7

If you love your boyfriend at all, you won't do that to him - and if you have any love for your future children, you won't do that to them either.

A child deserves both a mother AND a father that want them very much.

If you go ahead with this, you can be sure that the relationship with your boyfriend is over, and you will be left alone to raise a child that resents the heck out of him and out of YOU because his or her father didn't want him or her.

Answer 8

if you want a baby that much and he just isnt in it you can trick him into getting you pregnant but just dont expect him to stay its his life too..i went thru the same thing with my boyfriend and i talked to him about me being pregnant and he bluntly told me he probably wouldnt stay then i had to think how much i wanted this baby or how much i loved him and didnt want him to go...u can always have a baby later when he is ready aswell you guys would be a lot happier if you both wanted it not to mention the baby

Answer 9

That's really not fair to him, and most of all, not fair to the baby you might have.

Your boyfriend might leave you and deny the baby, or he might find out somehow later on what you did, and resent you for it. Have you ever seen the Maury show?

I really think that you should re-think this plan.

Answer 10

Then you should get a different boyfriend. Trapping him into a relationship by having a baby won't work. I've taken care of many young women who thought that would work, and they end up having the baby by themselves.
I hope you make the right decision.
Blessings and Good luck!