My fiance is typically this wonderful, fun, funny guy. However, he gets into these "funks" as I call them where he is just miserable.Nothing is fun, nothing makes him happy, he mopes arond, he sleeps, he does nothing. I can't handle this. 99% of the time he rather sit home and do nothing, than go out and be with people. I'm just the opposite. This terrifys me and the future I am about to build with him.
2006-10-12 16:39:40 · 16 answers · asked by at_thebuzzer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My man and I are pretty much the same dear, except I'm the one who'd rather chill at home. We have been married for about four years and we couldnt be happier.
You just need to balance each other out and compromise ON BOTH ENDS. Some days go out other days stay in.
STEP ONE is to talk to him and honey if he cant hear you as a fiance he will not be able to when your married. You will only grow more irritated if you dont find common ground now.
This is what marriage is ALL about. If he cant handle it maybe he's not ready to be a husband. Good Luck
2006-10-12 16:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jason & Milly T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess your fiance is a quiet man, who likes to stay to his self and doesn't really like to be around other people. Just because he is like that doesn't mean he is miserable and unhappy that is just the type of person he is. His ideal way of having a good time is staying at home. And like you said you are completely opposite I am assuming by now you've been together for sometime so you know that is what kind of person he is. So basically you and him talk and see what you and him both would enjoying doing.
2006-10-12 16:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by britt7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the warning flags have gone up!!! and he has depression- esp if he sits home 99% of the time- you will be so sorry if you marry him- Don't marry him to help him or to change him- you can't- you will only make yourself and him more miserable. He needs to admit he has a problem an get help- make the right decision- take care -D
2006-10-12 17:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Diane W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be suffering from depression. And if he is he probably doesnt know. Its not anything you can help him with its a chemical imbalance. He needs to get checked out by a doctor. Some simple medicine to help the imbalance could do the trick. You should talk to him about it and maybe see if he wants you to make him an appointment and go with him. Make sure he knows you love him and that your not putting him down. good luck!
2006-10-12 16:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by amtech33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets in those moods. My man does it to. But I have come to deal with it. There are times when I don't want to see or hear from him or my family. I get in a mood when I don't like to do anything. Maybe he is depress and he is dealing with it in his own way. So maybe you should talk to him and let him know you are concern about him and would like to know what can you do to help him. If he says everything is ok and he just wants to be left alone then respect his space and leave him alone
2006-10-12 16:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by Feelsolost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys has their psm's too. i realised that a while ago, and if a guy has a problem or he is stress out he will just stay home and wont talk to anybody....be there for him when he needs u, that would help. if u love him u can handle it...understand him a little and talk to him, maybe he has a problem and u dont know about it...
2006-10-12 17:04:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to change, believe me I have the same thing at home so I decided to take night classes and meet people and also thinking about going to the gym. It helps, but remember, he's not going to change regardless of what you do.
2006-10-12 17:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have a chemical embalance. or fits of mood changes. have you asked him if he got that check out. also shows some signs of being depressed sometimes. heck we all can get depressed and have moody days. and this must be upsetting him to especially if he doesn'tknow why its happening.
Have him get checked out theres help out there. and you both can carry on with happy lives
good luck
2006-10-12 18:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't always wonder too much what your fiance is thinking, (question) Did he ask your hand in marriage? if he did then that's a plus, if he didn't and feels like he had to marry you for some reason, please find out immediately, because there could be a problem...
2006-10-12 17:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by ray ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very much like depression. It is a treatable disease.
Try to get him to talk to a psychologist.
2006-10-12 17:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋