He asked me to go with him because they are having a party for his sons award.
I dont really like to do things like this but could go if I could get off work in time to do it and if he understands it does not change how I feel about some things such as her remaining on his checking account for about 6 months after we started dating. I still dont want her to call my house since he has a cell phone and I think she should not be reviewing his medical records. Its none of her business. Another thing that bothers me is they invited him over for a drink. He is a serious alcoholic and they are promoting something I totally disagree with. Help?
2006-10-12 16:10:17 · 8 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have been together for 4 2/3 years.
2006-10-12 16:17:25 · update #1
Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. If your an alcoholic in 1978, you are an alcoholic in 2006.
2006-10-12 16:18:44 · update #2
She posed as his wife while he was unconscious, so the nurse reviewed his medical records with him while he was out. Also, she does not call my house about his kids, she calls to ask him how our vacation went and if we enjoyed our trip. It had nothing to do with the kids and he always has his cell phone on so she can call on it. I have kids too, but my ex does not call my boyfriend out of respect for his house.
2006-10-12 16:22:29 · update #3
Also, they did not invite him for a drink. They invited him for a beer. My mistake. This is in spite of the fact that she has told everyone in town that he is an alcoholic including the high school principle. I see it as a personal thing and no ones business. You people only know because of anonymity.
2006-10-12 16:24:36 · update #4
If I were your husband, I would want you to go with me.
First off, I'd want my ex to see how much better I'm doing than when I was with her.
Also for support if she and maybe some of the others might be trying to talk me into having a drink. She probably wouldn't try it with you there.
And since it's about his son, it's important for the two of you to be presented as a family unit.
2006-10-12 19:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by raysny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inviting someone over for "a drink" doesn't necessarily mean alcoholic, there ARE other drinks in this world, such as sodas, water, tea and coffees. As for her calling your house, if you don't want her calling YOUR house then tell HIM to move out. She has the right to contact him as long as his son is alive whether it be at YOUR house or his cell phone. Since he had to have CHOSEN to keep her on the bank account you need to take that up with HIM, it's not HER fault HE chose to do so. As far as his health records are concerned...if she is able to view them then the issue should be taken up with the doctor's office staff, what they are doing is AGAINST HIPPA regulations...it's not HER fault the doctor's staff chooses to break the law. So far you have done nothing but blame her for things that aren't her fault. Sounds to me as if you're very insecure. You became involved with a man who has baggage, if you didn't want to put up with this baggage then you should never have gotten involved with him. As long as his son is alive he will be tied to his ex wife in some form, you need to shove your petty insecurities aside and accept that fact or send him packing.
2006-10-12 16:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband is my best friend. We make better friends than partners. Anyone that is going to be in my life will have to except that. I feel that insecurity with that is weak. Children should always come first, no matter what. I aplaud the gentlemen who can rise above differances and still step up to the plate. Get over it.
2006-10-13 02:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rock n Robin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I will try to have a self assessment and ask this question. How far should I go and rescue this man who had tried to ruin his life by excessive drinking on a regular basis.? His wife can't handle this. Do you think it is worth the risk of spending your whole life with this man? Just asking? You deserved to be happy and free from worry, don't u think so? lol
2006-10-12 16:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are only in your 6th month of being with him, then I don't think you are to give the orders. He will always be tied with her because of his son. There is no reason why you shouldn't go, you can help him keep the drinks out of his hands! Go be a good supporter to him, but do it gently.
2006-10-12 16:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by wibiggurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should go with him so you can watch after him. It shows that you guys are together. Okay, another thing, why do you want to date an alcoholic who is still attached to his ex-wife?
2006-10-12 16:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that you would rather meet her in a different place where there wasn't any alcohol.
2006-10-12 16:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no duh...............
2006-10-12 16:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋