we have lived together for 6 year, he has been caught in several lies and situations that make him look guilty of cheating, but I have no absolute proof he has/is cheating...he swears of course he isnt, so we are not married,, he feels the need to seek out other women, why doesnt he just break up with me...????
2006-10-12 16:10:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Really, only you know the answer to that one. Maybe he is afraid of the unfamiliar since you have been together for so long. Maybe he wants 2 women at the same time.
Perhaps, it is financial. Do you help pay his bills? Do you have a child with him?
2006-10-12 16:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Roof! Roof! Roof! Beware of Dog!
I'm glad I came across your question because it's what I do best!
Put those dogs behaving badly in the Pound.
I read several "buzz" phrases" in your question: 'caught in situations', 'caught in lies', 'looks guilty of cheating'. Hey, Miss Pretty Poodle, wake up!! You don't have to have a blood hounds nose to sniff this bad doggie out!! If you are using these types of words to describe his actions and are asking yourself "why doesn't he break up with me if he feels the need to see other women"??!! - YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER!!
I know Love is a powerful thing and it's overwhelming to the point where you stop seeing the "real' picture and it's hard to believe that he would do this to you. So think about it, Why Does He Cheat after 6 Years, when he can Just Leave??
Because You Allow Him To!!- After 6 years of 'suspicion' and no 'absolute - proof' (which you're highly unlikely to get all on your own- shameless plug! hit me up @360*), You haven't stepped up and thrown his doggie dish outside in the street and said get the hell on! This may hurt, but I've seen enough "chases" like this many, many, times before, where the Dog goes on doing his business whenever, wherever and still comes back to the ole reliable b*tch at home. Knowing you're still "chained" up by 'love' sittin' in the yard waiting for him. He chewed his 'leash' off long ago and your 6yrs! of acceptance of his bad doggie behavior (similiar to a dog that p*sses in the same spot on the sofa everyday) makes him feel like he Is the true AlphaDog..roof! roof! It's a Dog's Life "No Worries"....
If at some point he was ever house-trained, and maybe even successfully completed obedience school, it seems that now he may be resisting the training and going against everything he had learned. ...hummm, you could, if you've got it left in you, try to start from scratch with re-training him (if the luv is strong enough), I suggest going as far back as rolling up the newspaper and swatting him with it when he behaves badly.(lol) Or You could go and spend a long day at the Doggie Spa and get pampered and shampooed and get a pretty new collar and then step your fancy little self out in public and mingle a little. Don't go nuts or jump into anything with too serious intentions, just let some of the the real pedigrees out there admire you. Then next time Use Your Canine Sense and Sniff out the Right One for you.
catch ya later?
-The DogCatcher
2006-10-13 00:23:23 · answer #2 · answered by DogCatcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, why are you letting him call all the shots? By putting up with his cheating is doing so, and you need to get back your power. Why is it when we suspect someone of cheating we need proof I don't know the statistics but I'm sure they would be close to 9 out of 10 that he is cheating, with how many should be your question. It doesn't matter if your married or not a committed relationship is serious and should not be taken for granted. You need to get out now! Don't wait around to see if he dumps you, what's that about, you need to do what you have to and that's not staying with someone you don't know if you can trust. Don't you think being with someone for 6 years is a long enough time to know if you should get married or not? That's something else you should be thinking about. Good Luck girl, I hope you find your Joy!!!!
2006-10-12 23:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is obvious that your bf is not ready to make that commitment. if he is still attracted to other women he is really doing you a favor by not marrying you. most of the attached men i know say they don't want to pass up the opportunity to have sex with a woman because it might be the best they ever had. i think allot of it has to do with boredom. even someone that eats steak every night want a hamburger now and then. reminds them of how good the steak really is.
you have to keep in mind that monogamy is an invention of women. men have an innate desire to have multiple partners that has been breed into them since caveman days. every guy wants to do it but some are better at controlling that urge than others. i once had a woman tell me that she didn't care what i did or who i did it with as long as i came back to her. i hear women on this site say they know the difference between love and sex. i don't think that is true in most cases because women relate the two so closely. i.e. say you cam home and found your bf in the bedroom masturbating. is that cheating? would you leave him or ask him to leave? sex without love is masturbation.
boy i miss the 60s, hippies and free love. back then the idea of having sex with someone was just a way to share yourself and an experience with someone.
2006-10-12 23:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes the excitement and the chase- he likes to have his cake and eat it tooo!! He is a jerk- and not man enough to fess up!!! Call CHEATERS and they will get him on tape- if the assignment is accepted-If he lies he can't be trusted- don't let him torment you! you de serve better-leave and don't look back and don't get another like him- when getting to know a guy- do not ignore the red flags and warning signs-pick the qualities you want in a real man and go for it!! take care -D
2006-10-12 23:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Diane W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just dump him? You don't have to put up with a guy who gets caught in lies and situations. You can find a good guy who loves you and treats you the way you want.
2006-10-12 23:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he want his cake get rid of him make him feel you are better then that no one deserves that like i always say once a cheat always a cheat. I was with my ex for five years and he did it while I was pregnet with his child. it has been a while sience and I am better know then I was then. some make you feel that what they are doing is all right it is not you can do better TRUST ME!!!!!!
2006-10-12 23:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he isn't sure yet, but why allow him to decide your future, and put you through all this, get rid of the cheater, and find someone who doesn't cheat.if you have an intuition he is cheating, than he probroly is. we need to listen to our intuition. remember a cheater is always a cheater, and will do it again. why put yourself through years of this, and wait on him to decide to leave, get rid of the problem now so you can move on.
2006-10-12 23:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋