I s it reasonable for a parent to sleep on the couch and give their bedroom to their teen who is in need of privacy and personal space? they are currently sharing with a younger sibling.
2006-10-12 15:56:30 · 44 answers · asked by anonymoususer987876 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
not even close to reasonable. If the kids are the same sex, they can share. Not everybody has tons of money for a 3 or 4 bedroom house. Do the best with what you have. They will be more damaged by the attitude of entitlement you will build in them if you give up your room, then by having to share with a sibling or two.
2006-10-12 15:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Trip S 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Maybe once a week, but certainly not as a permanent solution.
If the teen needs their space, then they need to use their thinking cap and devise a way to make some small part of the house theirs when they need it.
If there's a living room, have them investigate the cost of a room divider and section a small part off where they can go to read, talk on the phone whatev...
WTH am I talking about? this is NUTS. They NEED their privacy and space? Fer crying out loud, they're a TEENAGER. They're not the freakin' president deciding whether to attack N. Korea so they need some quiet space. Teen needs privacy, let 'em take a bath like other teens do.
Let 'em go outside and take a walk.
Let 'em use your room for an hour a night without disturbance.
Other than that, LET 'EM GET USED TO HAVING THE WORLD NOT GO ACCORDING TO THEIR WHIMS!
Sorry, LOL, I just realized that I was entering "catering to" mode, and I hate that mode! They'll survive! Seriously, they will.
The adult has FAR more need for privacy and personal space - hell, if nothing else, they've *earned* it.
2006-10-12 16:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of people that have done this... one reason was the younger child had a earlier bedtime than the teen... and of course the teen had an earlier bedtime than the adult... the adult wasn't actually sleep on the couch... there was a day bed on one side of the living room... and also I think it would depend on the behavoir of the teen... if they are doing good and deserve this priviledge... then if the parents cool with... why not... but I wouldn't give it to the teen that was not doing good in school and misbehaving... it all boils down to personal choice... some parents put there kids needs before there own and there's nothing wrong with that...
2006-10-12 16:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is completely unreasonable, and if you let your teen walk on you on this, you will have much bigger issues down the road as your child gets older.
Your child has a bed to sleep in, a roof over his/her head, clothes to wear, food to eat, a warm house, and plenty of other things. If your place only has two bedrooms, then the kids share one and the grown-up has the other.
They'll just have to deal with not having as much privacy and personal space as they like. At least they won't have the opportunity to be secretive and get away with more.
2006-10-12 16:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not.
The teen is still a child, and the parents ARE the adults, and the ones paying on the home, and ARE the bosses.
Sorry it's inconvenient, but the parents need the personal space and privacy more than the teenager.
Too bad so sad for the teen...hope they remember this crazy request when they have a teenager.
2006-10-12 15:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt that the teen can earn enough money to pay for the room.
My mom uses that exuse on me all the time. It's really getting quite old. I'm twelve. It's not like I can go out to my job every day to earn money to help pay for rent and whatnot.
But no, I wouldn't. I've had to share my room with my older sister my whole life. We get along great. It's never really been a problem, except in the morning. She'e nineteen now. It's really no problem at all. We both need privacy and personal space, and that's what we both get.
2006-10-12 22:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no,
there are other ways to let the teen have their own space.
Basement or attics make great rooms for teens - you might have to help update some things.
Divide the two sibling rooms. I did with my two - the room was smaller for each but it solved the problem. Cubical wall pieces work awesome - the kids can even hang stuff up on them. I also hung a curtain on the top so he could pull it around - sounds like the teens up to something shady if this doesn't solve the problem.
2006-10-13 03:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by che_mar_cody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way . no parent in thier right mind would give up the room THEY pay for. Although when I was a teenager I would have loved to have the biggest bedroom to entertain all of my friends in, and in my distorted thinking I would have thought nothing of a question like this. And what kind of "personal space" does this teen need?? Let them get thier own place, pay for it, and then they can call the shots. Till then, stop squakin and be HAPPY you have someone to foot the bills for you.
2006-10-12 16:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Beamer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not give my bedroom in the house that I pay the bills to keep for my teen to have his own room. This is where the teenager needs to become creative and find a way to get his/her own alone time. Very few people get alone time every time they need or want it and teens are no exception.
2006-10-12 17:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no parents should not give up there room so a teenager can have there own room. teenagers need to learn how to get along with siblings younger or older, good or bad. Giving in to teenagers will not make them strong adults only whiners when they don't get what they want. Adults also need there space and any ways is the teenager paying the rent or mortgage no I don't think so.
2006-10-12 16:04:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋