Never been unfaithful except 2 years before being married does this mean that you are cheater the rest of your life together?
2006-10-12 15:39:43 · 30 answers · asked by bonz1958 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bear in mind that the person was only 15 years of age at tne time. i s this person a horrible monster that has to be reminded of this all the time? Should this person be told after this many years how you ruined some ones life?
2006-10-12 20:23:04 · update #1
Not hardly.
2006-10-12 15:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not consider yourself a cheater just because you did something before you were married. We all make poor choices at some time of our life and you were not breaking your marriage vows because you were not married yet. It must have just been an impulsive thing that didn't mean anything since you have remained faithful all these years. What's done is done and don't beat yourself up with memories of an event that happened so long ago. You evidently love your spouse or you wouldn't have stuck it out 24 yrs. I wouldn't ever mention it to them and if you are a spiritual person, I'd ask God for forgiveness and then ask Him to help you forgive yourself. You deserve a clear conscience.
2006-10-12 15:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by garden lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. If the person had that fling 26 years ago and has been faithful for 24 years after that then that should prove something there. I think all should be forgiven. Sounds liek this person learned a lesson thru it if they haven't cheated again. Leave the past in the past and move into the future.
2006-10-12 15:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey look at his track record it speaks for itself 24 years of marriage and never strayed.
And now your worried about somemthing that happened long time ago even before you two were married.
No I wouldn't worry about if he would be a cheater for the rest of your lives together by the way you have a good part of your life under your belt with 24 years behind ya.
2006-10-12 18:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you must be thinking of that person now or thinking of doing it again if you asking this question...so with that being said were you going out with your now husband at the time? If it bothers you that much tell him i mean you weren't married but to me cheating when someoone is going out steady is cheating but nothing that couldn't be worked out i mean it was so long ago and yall are still together everyone goes through changes in a relationship so what matters is now and as long as it doesn't happen now no problems.
2006-10-12 19:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by the_cajun_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you are anything for the entirety of your life, let alone a cheater. There are things I've done and said years ago that I wouldn't even think about doing now...let alone 25 years from now. I think most people grow and mature with age...I don't think I could hold something that happened that long ago, when that person hadn't had the life experiences that they now have, against them.
2006-10-12 15:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by quilt_mommy_2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok this happened more than a quarter of a CENTURY ago, and you weren't married for two years later?
Whoever is feeding you the "you are a cheater" stuff is immature, insecure and looking for excuses. If you have been faithful in marriage, that's all that's required. Tell him/her to get over it and refused to talk about it again.
2006-10-12 15:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope!!! what happened before you got married should not matter. You have been faithful and that is all that matters. Good for you..You were not a cheater before. Cheating is a word only used when you are married. You were not married at the time so it is not considered cheating!!!
2006-10-12 15:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can change if they want to. You obviously have changed because you haven't cheated in over a quarter of a century. Bravo...
Once a cheater not necessarily always a cheater...
2006-10-12 15:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not, but you must have some reason for asking. How committed were you to your now-spouse at the time? Did you cheat with one of their friends or a sibling? There might be some mitigating circumstances that would make it problematic. And do they know about it? If no, would you be a decent blackmail candidate for some reason?
All things to think about! :-D
2006-10-12 15:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was before your commitment... why bring it up at this point. What happened before has no bearing on your relationship - unless it involves a health problem... which it doesn't sound like - so.... better to just be happily married - faithfully - for 24 years.....Different lifetime - you know??
2006-10-12 15:43:32 · answer #11 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋