well this what happened i thought my boyfriend was going hit me the other night. i clicked on something wrong with the cpmouter i was tring to help him and he got mad because i clicked the wrong thing. well he put his fist like he was going to hit me and i had falshback because he hit me beofre that was over a year ago. he keeps telling me he sorry for hiting me and for yelling at me what should i do. i have been talking too this guy online and we both like eachother. i am very confused and i dont know what to do please help me.
2006-10-12 15:38:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please leave! This is not a good start to a marriage and it will probably get a lot worse. Men that abuse woman are always "sorry" about it but some how it always happens again. No matter how much he may love you and you love him, love does not involve hitting someone.
2006-10-12 15:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey if he has hit you before he could easily do it again! I would just watch yourself and don't rush into anything especially marriage with him because once you marry him things could get worse! I have been hit before and in fact I got the crap beat out of me by an ex bf and I will never go through it again!! Don't put yourself through it you deserve better! There are men out there that will respect you, you just have to wait for them!
2006-10-12 22:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by chrissiewild79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him or if you do make sure he goes thru counseling first...I CANNOT stress this enough. I put this in another answer, but I do volunteer work at a Family Crisis Center. I was in a verbally, emotionally abusive marriage for 16 years...all of the signs were there before we got married, but I married him anyway. The only 2 times he did put his hands on me in anger were around my throat. He sat on the bed one morning w/ a loaded gun & asked me if I was cheating on him (I wasn't he was...go figure). Talk to someone at a shelter...see if you can visit one of their group sessions...I don't know for sure, but usually the violence escalates. I just saw the Purple Shoe Display, there 71 pair of shoes (women's were purple pumps, men had black shoes & there were even little children black shoes) they represented the people that were killed in NC in just the year 2005 by acts of domestic violence & those were just the ones that were reported. Am I trying to scare you...I hope I do...NO ONE deserves to be abuse in any way shape or form...counseling might work for him but don't hold your breath...I am really really sorry!! It hurts my heart to think of anyone living like that. Good luck & God bless!!
2006-10-12 23:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by suzeq19642003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definately not a good start to a relationship.First of all love is not physically abusive. Get out now why you have a chance. I watched my mother get abused when I was younger and believe me you don't want your futur kids to watch their mother being abused by their father. That does not make good memories for a child. Have you ever watched the movies "What's love got to do with it " or "Enough" well I reccomend you do so if you haven't. They will inlighting you on abusive relatoinships. please feel free to email me and let me know how things are going for you and let me know if you watched those movies.wwgd04@yahoo.com
2006-10-12 23:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by liv2praz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad idea to marry him now sweetie. Give it some time, and make it very clear that you will not be abused by anyone. He still even just yells at you, you should call it off.
2006-10-12 22:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Devon M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once an abuser always an abuser, i wouldnt marry him, some men think they own you when they marry you then they think they have the right to hit you. wrong you dont deseve it. i would get out now before it is to late, meet the other guy.
2006-10-12 22:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you once, more than likely he will hit you again. Especially if you see that he making motions that he is going to hit you. If you want to spend your life that way, that is up to you. If not, get out.
2006-10-12 22:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Scrapper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you shouldnt get married your asking strangers for help but cant ask the one you think you love and our gonna marry .your confusing me by saying shoud i marry him i have a boyfriend on the pc .uh ,no !
2006-10-12 22:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋