2006-10-12 15:33:53 · 16 answers · asked by anonymoususer987876 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ground him/her
2006-10-12 15:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the paying, they need to earn the money. Take
away their privileges, something that he/she really likes. And say
"until you know how to keep this room clean, then you can get it
back" NO BUTS!!. If you pay them ,then for any little thing, they will charge you. That's their room, not yours, your rules not theirs.
And stick to it. My Nephew lives with me for 2 years. He was 16 when he moved in, not by choice (Foster child) anyways he's old enough to do some chores, I give him 3 things to do, which in
his mined he thinks ,he can clean every once a month. So I
took away his allowance. And when he ask for money ,then
The first thing I say is" Funny how you can ask for money every
other day, but you can't clean every other day". So He puts his head down and walks to his room. Then a few minutes later
he'll start cleaning. but I don't give him money until he sticks
to the plan. And if he goes right back to the same old routine
then he know don't ask me for some money. I'll just buy what he needs. When I see that when I have to tell him to clean and we
talk about money, and he starts cleaning then I know it's for the money. NO!! That's not how it go, I shouldn't have be after him every time just to clean up his room or help clean the Apt..
That's a chore he was given when he moved in with no Butts.
My nine year old has to clean up her mess and I get after her
everytime she doesn't clean up her room or does her chores.
I know she likes playing outside so She doen't get to go outside
with no pay, and thats that.
2006-10-12 23:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure I have an 8 year old and a 4 year old with the same problem, and telling them that they can't go anywhere or do anything doesn't work with them for some reason I have thought about taking away all of their toys and the TV and Movies so that they have some incentive to want to clean. I have also heard that taking these things away will force them to have better behavior because if you take them away once you can do it again. Dr. Phil reccomends it for kids with bad attitudes. You have to be consistent with kids otherwise they will walk all over you!
2006-10-12 22:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by chrissiewild79 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might try taking away some of her privileges until her room is clean, and ground her. that might help. I guess we all have the same problem with children. You would think they would be ashamed of the mess, but it don't seem to bother them. You shouldn't have to bribe them to clean it, or pay them. Just tell her no friends over til it is clean, and that means under the beds too. I know about that trick too. Lots of Luck. I will have to put this on my watch list. Keep us posted. We could all learn from this.
2006-10-12 22:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options, reward or punishment. Whichever they will respond the best to. Because "I said so " does not usually work very well. Example: clean your room or no TV or clean your room and extra something (tv time, video time) You know your child best and what they like and dislike. Have fun and good luck.
2006-10-12 22:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Whynotguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I let the room get to the point where nothing could be done. The child will decide on their own that a tidy room is at least navigable.
2006-10-12 22:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but when you find out can you give me a holler. I cant get my 12 yr old to clean her room either.
2006-10-12 22:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by skybluebabyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you take one toy till they clean it and start with the ones the he likes then you give one back for every day the the room is clean
2006-10-12 22:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Guy 29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean there's a choice here? It's easy - there's a 'trade' that takes place..... IF they want something, THEN they have to..... it works like magic.... but you have to stick to it - both ways. Remember, you have the power to say "NO". If your child's behavior is unacceptable, then when THEY want something - just say 'no'. They'll hate you - but that's OK. The one who hated me for so many years - is the one I'm closest to (after they become human again).
2006-10-12 22:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by longhats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she doesn't pick everything up it will go in the garbage and she will not get new things to replace them. If she doesn't pick them up start packing them in a garbage bag and set them outside. The tune will change quickly. But you need to be serious about it.
2006-10-12 22:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone figures that out, let me know..... I think this question goes back to the beginning of time.
2006-10-12 22:49:25 · answer #11 · answered by Scrapper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋