Our grandson is 12 years old. He lives with his mom and dad and his 7 year old sister. Their home was built in center of 60 acres. He attends a highly rated school. He has grandparents on his dad's side too. When they need a sitter it is a grandparent. His dad takes him fishing. He belongs to 4H. He has a dirt bike and the family has a 4 wheeler. He has a room of his own with a phone and a computer(off line). He likes to play outside and go on walks with the family and two Labs (dogs). His mom and Dad go to school meetings on parents night and do volunteer work at the school. The problem is he doesn't have any interest in school work. His class is going to Washington DC next Spring but he can't go because he got detention for misbehaving on the school bus. Also The family is going to Disney World next summer. His parents told him at beginning of school year that if he got any D's he could not go. We know he wants to go to these places but he does not seem to be concerned.
2006-10-12 15:30:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
kids open up their souls to friends they trust.
can you be a friend he can trust?
can you talk to your son/daughter to spend quality time with him, and be his friend?
his problem may be much simpler after all.
2006-10-12 15:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone asked him why he doesn't like School? How about why he is acting out? I would say he may be a little isolated from everyone in the middle of that 60 acres. Does he play any school sports? Does he have friends over? If not, why? Keeping him busy with school activities may help distract him from acting out. If he is not interest in school work maybe he needs more of a challenge. Sometimes kids who don't do well in school are actually pretty smart. It is just that the school work is tedious & stupid to him. My brother was the same way & now he is in the US Navy working on an aircraft carrier. (Working on airplanes). Don't lose hope. You must continue to find out what the problem is. Keep asking if their is a problem at school with another student(s) or teacher for that matter. Bring him to an environment where he is most comfortable and relaxed and start a conversation. (ie arcade, favorite fast food place, etc.) Kids are more likely to talk if they are not pressured into it. Keep trying and trying. I am sure everything will work out fine. Good luck!!
2006-10-12 16:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is on the edge of puberty! Imagine what he is going through--the peer pressure at school etc. Is he in any extracurricular activities??? Baseball, football, Boy Scouts, astronomy club, band??? Get him involved with his peers! He needs to keep moving--he is a busy mind ---how about martial arts classes--this teaches discipline too and is great because they compete in competitions. Can you blame him for not liking school--schools are a mess and quite frankly, you don't have the time to wait for someone to fix them. You will have to take measures into your own hands to ensure he keeps interested and understand the importance of his education in the big picture of life. We are letting our televisions be our babysitters and we expect our kids to plop down in front of them and not move for 18 years--and if they do move we call them ADHD--it is complete madness!! Did you ever ask him what he likes? Does anyone speak to this boy and ask what he likes to do and what his interests are-and if he doesn't know, sign him up for a couple of intro classes in martial arts--and I guarantee once he gets to kick box and roughhouse around with other kids--he'll love it and it will give him confidence. Start building up his esteem--money cannot buy esteem. When mom and dad decide to bring children into the world, their lives should be dedicated to helping the young person grow into a great adult--not a hateful destructive person. Good luck and bless you for noticing he needs help!
2006-10-12 15:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by MicG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to repeat the 7th grade because i didnt care. i skipped, i didnt do my work, i made out with every boy i could find. just be glad hes not on drugs. some kids just arent cut out for school. look into a college that does the dual credits. i forget what its called, but my niece is going to one in texas and shes getting a degree in computers while shes in the 7th grade. good luck...
2006-10-12 15:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids are just not interested in school. Maybe there are things going on at school that you don't know about it. Maybe he is being teased or something and that is distracting him. His parents should talk to the teachers and see if they notice anything going on.
2006-10-12 15:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋