How do you know if your man really loves you or if he is just saying he does?

Question

I just feel that lately things are drifting! We have been together for 1.5 years. We had problems for a while, and now we are working things through! But he works alot, and I don't know if he is tired, or if he just doesn't love me anymore! Sometimes I feel so depressed like I have lost him!

Answer 1

Actions speak louder than words, but sometimes we get caught up in our daily lives going to work, financial problems etc and we just need to take the time for each other and realize that what we have is important to us! You need to talk to him about how you are feeling! If you hold it inside and just let it go you are going to drift apart and end up losing each other! TALK TO HIM! He should understand if he truly loves you. If he doesn't he will let it go in one ear and out the other and then it is time for you to hit the road and find someone who really does love you! It will hurt for a while but you will eventually get over it and move on!

Answer 2

Be transparent (such a hard thing to do when someone is unsure of themselves in a relationship) and tell him what he means to you and that you fear you 2 are growing apart, and you need him to reach out to you.

If there's still a spark, he will respond. Give him about a week or so, if he's going through a lot of stress, this may hit him like a ton of bricks, but if he does still love you, he will communicate to you fairly quickly (for a guy, that is) that he is probably hurting too and doesn't want to lose you.

If he blows you off (and you'll KNOW if that's what he's doing as oppossed to needing time to absorb this) then it's possibly beyond repair at that point without outside help.

Answer 3

I think i can help you or at least give you my personnel experience, i have been with ken for about year and half and he has his own business and he works his but off. I haven't told him that i love him nor has he told me, but by his actions I can tell that he cares for me great deal. He comes in tired and all but i do things for him like giving him back massage or cooking or both. What we do for "down time" just kinda catch up is i will give him a back massage and talk to him and connect. Or if i know coming in late or i cant see him some reason because of his chaotic work schedule i will leave him a note. There are sometimes when my mind will start to run, kinda get down a bit because i think things but by his actions and us keeping that communication open it big help. Not saying this is perfect solution but it maybe a start.

Answer 4

It is in his eyes. If you are in love with him as you say you are, you should be able to read into him through his eyes. Look deep, and you'll see if it's still there. There are always two possibilities. He actually could just be tired, worn out, and not in the mood to deal with a girlfriends wants/needs. (very likely) On the other hand, don't jump to conclusions and make false accusations based on his moods, they could very well just be moods. If this isn't the case, he could be moving on from you.. or atleast just not as close. I suggest giving it time, giving him space. Let him come to you. When he does, talk. Question your relationship.. without getting attitude and sarcasm. That will just make his walls go up, and conversation will be avoided and nothing will be compromised. Good luck. <3

Answer 5

trust me on this if he says it in the evening he just wants too get laid! if he tells you after making love he just dont want too get into a conversation about it! if he wakes up in the morning snuggles with you kisses you after a wonderful nite together honey he really does love you from the bottom of his heart!plus he wants some more hee hee

Answer 6

i think that he still loves you, except that he's a little out of control sort of thing. If he still loves you and he didn't tell anyone thoughout those 1-5 years, he will tell other guys or something.