Would any of you men be able to go on if you werent able to look at another sexy woman again this means porn, images on comp.and etc if it meant you would not be w/ your wife if you didnt stop. My husband says that if he couldnt that he would be able to not have the desire to lookat other beautiful women again if it meant losing me. I am not talking about looking for a beautiful woman you are seeking for a relationship I am talking about if you were married and this was your choice to be married to the woman you love or not be with her because you cant give up your desire to look at other women like i mentioned above. I honestly can say that I could stop looking at sexy men in this way which i am not if I were to choose to stop or get divorced so let me know your thoughts and know I am not dealing with this situation myself I just wanted to know what you men thought If you had to choose.
2006-10-12 14:21:10 · 8 answers · asked by 2wild4u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These last 2 answers really sum it up. If a woman has to worry cause their man is looking at pictures it says one thing to me, and loudly 'insecure in the relationship'. If one cannot be more secure in their relationship than to trust their partner isn't going to cheat on them at the first opportunity, and that just because their partner likes looking at photos every so often ... then there's a problem..and a big one at that.
It is a different story if the man is habbitually looking at porn on a daily basis and neglecting his partner, but if this is not the case, there is no call to make a substantial issue out of it. Granted, I'm no fan of porn, but that doesn't make it wrong. Further, there is a difference between porn..most of which on the net is pretty bad ... and a photo of an attractive woman. I think personally, that I'd prefer the later of the two. But, and I will re-enforce this point .. just because a guy is looking at other pictures of women does not indicate infidelity.
2006-10-12 15:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by adarious_mist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel so insecure about yourself and your relationship to forbade looking at beautiful women. Sorry, that is nonsense. Now you have neglected to say if there is a negative result as a result of his peering eyes. In that case, you shouldn't even want to be with him, but for what you just described, is like saying, i love tennis four nights a week now all of a sudden because I got married and she is so needy, I am no longer allowed to play tennis four nights a week for fear a neglecting her! Sorry this is not my idea of two people becoming one. Sure, tennis and looking at beautiful women, two completely different things, but come on now, I am not supposed to appreciate beautiful things in life, such as an attractive woman! My wife may be ONE of the most beautiful women in the world, but she is just one of the many. Again, if there is an adverse result, than reconsider if he is the one.
2006-10-12 21:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be a choice. Porn is sleezy - has nothing to do with love - animals have sex - and void of emotion. Watching it it's a waste of life - for both sexes.... (unless they do it together alone to turn each other on - sometimes people need that).Actually I don't find anyone that attractive that it would take a minute away from the relationship I have with my husband.
I consider 'porn' part of life that I know exists, but I'm glad I'm not around it. It reminds me of how sad people are and what they do to feel 'worthy'. If you were to look into history, most of those people have very sad backgrounds, abuse, drugs and low self-esteem..... so to me - the decision's a "no-brainer".
2006-10-12 21:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are men and I know this is a cliche but it is proven that men think about sex like a hundred times a day. It is unfair for you to make him promise such a thing. Looking doesn't hurt a thing. You could look at a hundred desserts and not gain an ounce of weight. For him to promise not to look at another woman is to force him to lie to you. There is no way he could keep that promise. Women I think could keep such a promise but not men. Looking and lusting for a beautiful woman is part of the male being.
2006-10-12 21:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look to look with innocent eyes are not matter - the sin come from the heart is matter - Looking beautiful women means you admire that means nothing wrong with that, you are nice man I guess - Look no touch
2006-10-12 21:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously stop looking at anything I would no loose my life long partner its hard to find a girl that would promise you to stand by your side through thick and thin and I wouldnt loose that at all.
2006-10-12 21:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by crazy 4 somethin' real 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man, but I can answer the question. If I was married to the person who best met my needs, and I met his, there isn't any room for any one else, he would be it! If I'm with you, I'm with you, if I'm not, I'm not, and you'll know!
2006-10-12 21:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there would be more rules down the road next no to controlling
2006-10-12 21:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by k dog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋