This guy, married for 15 years couple of kids...things appear normal then BAM, he moves out leaving family stunned and hurt. Says he needs to think and rest, what does that crap mean???Is he 4 years old or a grown man with responsibilities?
2006-10-12 14:15:31 · 17 answers · asked by Octavia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry to say that happens more than you think. one possibilty is he has been having an affair and he's torn between the two. he and his wife need to work thru this together and see a marriage counselor if she/he is willing
communication is vital here
2006-10-12 14:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because things appear normal doesn't mean they are. Think of your family life, if someone were to watch the going on at your house what would they say? Would it all be normal? Is any family normal?
Yeah this guy has responsibilities but after 15 years there must be a big reason behind it. It could be a very logical reason or it could be selfish who knows.
2006-10-12 21:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what "evil lies in the hearts of men".... All I know is this - he's doing you a FAVOR. I know it doesn't seem like it because you're getting 'stuck'..... but do you want someone who isn't sure he loves you? Sounds like he's got someone on the side....Remember your kids will look at your reaction to see how they should feel - so you really need to be very strong for them.
I'm speaking from experience here - don't deny yourself a really good, happy, satisfying life - kids & all. Sure won't happen with that albatross.
Also think about this.... Is that the man you married?....someone that would leave his own kids and you? without working on your problems together? I'm sure that's not who you married.. it never is. I'd lick my wounds and get him for a good child support check and get on with my own life. Chances are that if he came back, things would NEVER be the same again anyway......
2006-10-12 21:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by longhats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! this is a guy who simply is not out for a relationship because obviously he moves on because he never really want a marriage or a relationship because a marriage is a commitment so this man has a responsibility what about child support I mean he could get a divorce but he is behaving like a 4 year old obviously who doesn't care much about things and yet it could mean that he probably has someone in his life.
2006-10-12 21:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved out and left my husband of 12 years. I spent the last 5 years of my marriage trying to tell him we had problems and we needed to talk. He said all is good. He found out all was NOT good when he came home and found me and our 3 boys gone.
Dont judge, find out the reason first. There is always another side to every story
2006-10-12 21:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by deborahcr2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation in my family and we later found out there was much more going on than what we knew about. I don't really want to go into details but maybe you need to dig a little deeper.
2006-10-12 21:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by kidrock_fan003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not on-the-dot decision...he might had thought about it for a while and finally had courage(???) to do so...
it think he just some old basta**...if he really need to think and rest why didnt he told so???even my 4 yr old lil bro act better than that!!!
tell the family to move on..i know its hard but u cant wait for him to turn around n get his sense back...his sense wont come back cos its not there at the 1st place...
move on,had a better life and when he try to fit in just tell him
'thanks for leaving us and making our life better..'
that exactly what i told to someone who supposed to be called dad
2006-10-12 21:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by fallforniky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just have another person on the side that no one knows about not even the wife and the other person can sadife and make the other 1 happier than the one he's been with. it happens alot
2006-10-12 21:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously its because hes found another woman...or he wants to go out and mess around and not feel the guilt of living with you and cheating at the same time. Tell him to stay gone forever.
2006-10-12 21:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all its not suddenly.. he been knew what he wanted to do.. he probably just didn't know if he should... and just like u said.. everything appears normal but unless ur him and unless ur his wife then how could u know what's going on over there......... if ur so concerned then why not talk to him that's if he's ur friend or r u just being nosey?????
2006-10-12 21:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋