I have a question. There is a guy that ive pretty much been in love with for a few years now. This guy is a very close friend to myself. Oh, by the way, im gay. So I sort of think that he has feelings for me as well, not sure though. And is there any way to discover if in fact he has those feelins back? Besides asking, im going to do that soon...But you know how hard it is to put your feelings on the line like that. Is there any way to like sort of subtly show my love to him without being obvious? By the way, Im not even sure if he swings that way...What do I do?
2006-10-12 14:15:04 · 6 answers · asked by lecourer 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
By the way, he knows im gay. He actually sent me to some web site along time ago that asked me for my crush and it sent the answers to him, so he knows that I like him. Ive always had my suspicions, hes always kind of checks out guys and stuff (this may just be hes one of those you know secure men) But I dont know what to think of him, does he feel the same way or not...hmm..not sure
2006-10-12 16:56:17 · update #1
Start a convo about homosexuality- good topic is the recently passed national coming out day. Ask him if he thinks gay marriage should be allowed. Ask him what he thinks about it. Ask him if he has ever been curious or whatever, and then maybe you can come out to him and perhaps he will surprise you with coming out too.
2006-10-12 16:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want romance and not friendship, ask. If you want to leave a few hints with out asking, leave a few suggestive magazines on the table (advocate is great). If you want to stay friends, romance does not fit in, just say. Hey, Im gay. Wanted you to know. And dont ask him anything. If he leaves you as a friend, so be it, you need real friends. If he is interested... let it move ahead slowly.
2006-10-12 16:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't said anything by now, and neither has he, and you still aren't sure he's gay too, then ask.
Be aware that you will probably lose this friendship if he takes offense, or he might not take offense but still not feel that way about you.
Just be ready for the consequences of your actions. Good luck to you, I hope it turns out great!
2006-10-12 14:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Exact same thing happened to me over this past weekend. Told my friend I was attracted to her... and now I'm coming to grips with the fact that I have lost her friendship. Very painful. I got what I wanted: TO KNOW ONE WAY OR THE OTHER... but it still hurts. Think long and hard if you are willing to live without him... instead of him not knowing.
2006-10-12 16:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by camarochic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend a day with him, and at the end of the day, put your arm around him and give him a gug with an arm and see if he takes it further
2006-10-12 16:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he likes sewing or interior decorating
2006-10-12 14:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Oldwing XXON 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋