i had my first child at a early age (at 16) im 20 now) and i went through it on my own but as soon as my baby was born my whole family took over and now im pregnant with my partners baby and its his first child and he is over joyed about being a dad he is planing everything for the baby but i feel sad and scared inside. my first childs father has always made things difficult for me he wants everything his way i get told im the worse mother ever he tells me how long he wonts to keep our son when thats not what we agreed on he keeps him longer and it ruins my plans with my son and i get told on how he wants our son raised i dont get a say in anything and it stresses me out and i dont feel like im ready for my next baby and i dont understand i should be overjoyed i should be happy with my partner but all i do is put a fake smile on and pretend im happy. i want to enjoy this pregnantcy and feel overjoyed is there any suggestion to help me feel myself again
2006-10-12 14:09:44 · 6 answers · asked by angel_babe_ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I just turned 21 yesterday and were trying for a baby i also had a daughter when i turned 16 and my babies dad left us high and dry...he doesnt have anything to do with her tho...and i wouldnt let him call the shots even if he thought he could...id stomp his dick in the dirt....if i was you...id just tell him hey you wanna see the my son you better start paying dont let him walk all over you like he knows what hes doing....how dare he even think that he can do that......Your just going to have to start trusting your new partner...and leaning on him for help to get through this with a new baby...tell him how you feel...i tell my husband how i feel about it all the time....if your worried you have to tell him specially if your having a baby together...Just think you have something growing inside of you. The cute new lil clothes you get to buy and everything thats fun going on with ababy...right now i wish i was you!! your really lucky!! and goodluck to you and the new baby:)
2006-10-12 14:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that things have not went as well as you would like with baby #1's father, I know how much stress that can cause (I'm going through similar situation myself).
First of all, just because you have had a negative experience, does not mean that this will be the same. But, I understand where you could be fearful because of what has happened with your first child's father.
Maybe you should sit down with your partner, and express your fears and worries, and see what he has to say. You might find out that your ideas on parenting, etc. are similar. It might also help for the both of you to have some kind of parenting plan before the baby is born, such as expectations, etc.
I wish you the best.................
2006-10-12 21:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by star22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, It is hard to feel happy when you have previously been pretty badly hurt. It may take a little while, but i think you will begin to feel happy, especially with having a new partner that seems to be really supportive and over the moon. Just remember that everything takes time, Good luck, i wish you all the best
Mother of 1 and 1 on the way
2006-10-12 21:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by cheri_gc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while I'm sorry to hear that,the advice i can give you is to don't let your past ruin your future. Be happy that you no longer have to go through that experience again. As for your child you get a say so in your child's life to. You didn't have him/her on your own ,start digging deep inside and make a good choose on how you want your child to be raised. Take it easy you have a man that loves you so enjoy your future and leave the past behind.
2006-10-12 21:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by olivia n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you sure can talk without periods! It can be normal, especially in your case where things have not worked out well for you. Perhaps you realize it would be better for you to be married. It's awkward to be as young as you are and have two babies by two different fathers. Perhaps some counselling is in order before you get too stressed.
2006-10-12 21:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think that you need to ask your soctor about getting on something that might help with depression. I think that you have had a tough past, but I want you to know that not all men are alike. I think you need to forget about what has happened in the past, and enjoy what you are going threw now. Let it go. Talk to your doctor. There is nothing wrong with getting help.
2006-10-12 21:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋