My girlfriend and I, after we get married, are going to have children. I'm going to have the first and third and she will have the second. But I will use her eggs when I'm pregnant and when she's pregnant she will use mine. [We'll be using anonymous sperm donors.]
My question is if we'll be allowed to be in the delivery room for each other. And if the fact that we're carrying a child that isn't biologically ours will matter, because I know that surrogate mothers are allowed to have the biological mother in the room.
I couldn't find any literature on this, so I needed to ask.
2006-10-12 13:48:37 · 25 answers · asked by drunkon80 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And the reason we're carrying each other's children is because we wanted it to feel that way, as opposed to carrying our own.
2006-10-12 13:53:42 · update #1
OOO!,
My girlfriend wanted 2 or 3, I wanted 4. We met in the middle.
2006-10-12 14:00:23 · update #2
Yes, a delivering mother can have anyone she wants in the birthing room. Its entirely up to you, her and the circumstances. There are medical emergencies that happen where no family members can be present, but they are pretty darn rare. Find a GLBT OB and tour the hospital during your pregnancies. Make sure you have the appropriate legal paperwork such as living wills and even power of attorney. See an attorney way before you get pregnant so that there is no chance that the state or your relatives can claim the baby and keep either of you out should something terrible happen.
Sorry, I don't mean to be a downer, but things happen in childbirth and you need to cover all your bases while you can.
Oh and have you actually talked to an OB about the donor egg thing? Did they mention how excruciating it is? You both might want to look into that further.
Good luck to you both, enjoy being mom's.
2006-10-12 14:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have anyone and everyone in the delivery room so long as no complications arise. You can choose any labor coach you want - No, it does not matter who's eggs and whose sperm you use. The staff may just assume you are sisters, or good friends or what ever. No one is going to throw you out unless you are upsetting each other during delivery - lol.
2006-10-12 13:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that by way of fact the father you prefer to be in the room - it extremely is a undeniable time for the two one among you. Her mom can see the toddler later. you're fortunate you have the choice to be there for a planned c-area. My c-area became an emergency, so my husband wasn't allowed in the working room - so we did not like that throughout any respect. Push for this; that's significant.
2016-10-16 03:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not keep your own eggs? FYI 3 is not a good number of kids.* There's always one left out, usually the middle child. I can't imagine them not allowing her in the delivery room or you for her. I had my daughter's father and my sister with my first child and my step mom and half sister with my second as my son's father was completely out of the picture.
2006-10-12 13:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you both can be present during the delivery. My husband works at a hospital and he just confirmed it. It is a beautiful thing!I didn't get to experience the "normal" birth but my husband was able to see my son when they removed him from my belly. He said it was the most amazing thing. Kids are great! Good luck and enjoy every moment
2006-10-12 13:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will be allowed to have eachother in the room, however, if advice is what you want, then I would say to carry each baby in thier own mothers womb due to in vitro is hard enough as it is let alone doing it that way
2006-10-12 13:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by robyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure whoever is delivering the baby can have whoever she approves in the delivery room as long as the person in the room wears the appropriate sanitary clothing approved by the hospital. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-10-12 13:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by jljdc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, mommies! I believe the partners can be in the delivery room! I sure hope so, because support really helps at such a difficult and painful time. Wish you both healthy pregnancies!
2006-10-12 13:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you could arrange this with the obstetrician.
I was present at all the births of my children.
It's a wonderful experience by the way.
Augusta
2006-10-12 13:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be allowed- if not, come back here and tell us about it! I'll be very upset to hear it if you're not allowed 'cause i'm gay. Make sure to tell us what city and state you're in, and details of the denial.
2006-10-12 13:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by youngcutegainer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋