My husband and I have had some ups and downs, my trust in him has gone pretty much down to zip, He does what ever he wants and my friends state that he doesn't repect me or my opinion.
2006-10-12 13:46:42 · 11 answers · asked by Windy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you know if anyone really loves you? Some how you just know! Especially when it comes to your husband, you know his man in so many ways and intimately, deep inside your self you know if he loves you or not! You may choose to ignore what your intuition tells you but believe me that deep within your self you already know the answer!
2006-10-12 13:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel I went through this and it is hard because you love him but at the same time you feel betrayed and the trust is gone. My husband use to do pretty much what he wanted and did stuff that upset me and continues to do some of it today but I can honestly say that I can trust the fact that he will financially support our family because he always has had a job a good job and I know that he would protect us if he were to do so but at the time we were having difficulties I couldnt trust him because he didnt respect my feelings about certain issues that almost caused us to get divorced. If you feel like what you have is gone then maybe you should be apart this is no way to treat the one you love. And it is two sided and thats not right.
2006-10-12 14:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if that's the case then your husband doesn't love you.
You see, a marriage is about compromise, communiation, affection, respect and trust. That is what creates the love and bond between the two.
If your friends see that he doesn't respect you, they're most likely right. Remember, our friends have our best interest at heart. If you can't trust him, he has obviously done something that has caused you to lose your trust which states he has no respect.
If he does whatever he wants without your consent, without consideration to you, and without inviting you then he's pretty much a bad husband and you deserve better.
2006-10-12 13:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There will always be ups & downs in committed relationships but when the respect is gone that enables one partner to do things that can hurt the other because they don't really care.
I'm so sorry for you because every wife who is faithful deserves to have an equally considerate husband.
Perhaps it's time for you to consider a life without him.
2006-10-12 14:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you're telling us here I'd say he doesn't love you all that much.
These are the ways I show my wife I love her.
1.Help with house work. This sound cheesy but it's a biggie in our house.
2. Tell her I love at least 6 to 10 times a day.
3. Take my son out for supper on friday nights so she can pamper herself. You know that a bubble bath listen to soft music that kind of stuff.
4. Cook a meal for her and set candles on the table. Even if our son is around it's still nice.
5. Send her post cards when i'm away on business. (We call eachother but a card is a nice gesture I find."
6. Buy flowers for no particular reason.
I could go on but I believe these are the kind of things a man does when he loves his wife.
Hope things work out for you.
Elio
2006-10-12 14:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then if there is no respect, there is no love.
When you love somebody or someone loves you then there is respect, understanding,patience,happiness and communication. If he doesn't respect you and your opinions then, its time to leave. Every couple has ups and downs, and still love and respect each other. I say be strong, love yourself, don't let him step on your self-esteem. I once saw these words and I think they are so true.......................
"The only people you need in your life, are ones that need you in theirs. "
Someone who loves you will respect you and value your opinion.
Peace and Love your way.
2006-10-12 14:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay 2 ways and options 2 find out 1) if he talks in his sleep ask him when he is in a deep slumber (am very serious this does work i have tried it out)
2)ask him to take a oath/swear of some1 who he really loves,as this is very emotional and sensitive issue it has to be handled with extreme care
2006-10-12 14:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by agony_unkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wouldnt have to ask. you would know. you would just know. if your husband is putting you through all these ups and downs and he doesnt respect you he doesnt respect himself cause you both represent one another. so to ask that question you shouldnt have to.
2006-10-12 14:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, my relationship is the same. I really don't think that there is any love. I'm just waiting for him to end it. Don't get me wrong I love him but I don't think he feels the same
2006-10-12 13:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by traci s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the way he looks into your eyes or at you from across a crowded room, the way he touches you all tell you his sincerity.
2006-10-12 14:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by 817_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋