If you have sex with your spouse 1x every 6-8 weeks isn't that a red flag?

Answer 1

Not necessarily.
Some people just don't have the sexual urge that others do, or what is considered the norm these days.
I would be alarmed if the frequency has lessened if you went at it like rats at first, but now it has slowed down. If the frequency has always been a bone of contention, then I would say your urge is stronger than hers.
In either case, there needs to be some sort of compromise made as far as frequency is concerned.
It won't help to beg, plead or threaten either. Sit her down and explain how you feel about the situation and see if the two of you can come up with a solution.
I hope this helps.
Good luck

Answer 2

Heck No that is not a red flag. A RED FLAG is when you and your spouse do not have sex for 8+ years.
Email me and I will tell you.

Answer 3

I think so.... I have sex once a month if I'm lucky, I think it's a red flag. We use to have sex everyday sometimes two three time a day! Now I'm lucky if it's once a month, I know something is wrong but he say different

Answer 4

Well, it all depends.
I guess my answer to your question is yes, but it doesn't necessarily mean that there is some type of unfaithfulness. It could be a sexual disfunction. Sometimes this is hard to live with and many couples cannot work through it. But there are couples who genuinely care for each other and love each other regardless. Sex is important in a relationship , but sexual pleasure can be given and or received in other ways other than through intercourse.

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I guess it really depends on the couple and what is going on in their marriage.


Peace.

Answer 5

Not if you have always had this frequency. Medical reasons could cause this lull of activity. Low sex drive, over work, money problems, lack of interest in the act itself. When you do , is it great sex or just an act of do it and get it over with. Is it mutual or do you want it and he or she doesn't. If male is it ED. Pills can help. Female could be never got orgasm and just gave up. Concentrate on pleasing partner and things will be OK. If outside interference, ask..

Answer 6

It all depends..... Been married 11years she's got ailments and we both work long hours. We enjoy just being in the same room together. I would love 6-8 weeks but with us it is 6-8x a year. So sometimes you just accept life as it comes.

Answer 7

Very red indeed. Intimacy is a very important part of marriage. If you let the light go out you will loose interest in other things too. Obvioiusly you aren't going to go at it like you did when you were new to one another. You need to find out why you don't have sex more often. Are your priorities (i.e. one another) in order? Is there disinterest due to stress, infidelity, or lack of physical attraction? I'd find out!

Answer 8

very red... and it will just get worse.
i was in the same situation ....it started every 6-8 weeks and couple of months later it was every 4- months and now it's been over a year... the worst part.. it's so hard to get out of a marriage/

Answer 9

If it is a change from the dating pattern, probably worth checking out in a serious conversation.. It could be due to illness.
Otherwise - could be a low sex drive. In my counselling there are couples who have had sex 2x in 34 years.

Answer 10

i think that it depends.if it is on his part it doesn't mean that all the time. men go through things with their mood and hormones just like women do. when their emotions are messed up they don't want to have sex.either way though, it is something having to do with the relationship aspect probably not the physical and if its been this way the whole time u two have been together then sorry i just do not know. good luck with it and do what feels right to you.