well my boyfriend tell me to leave every time we get into a fuss. Well he knows i don't have no where to go and he holds that over my head. well we have been together for 9 years he use to leave with me now he has a lot of money he think he is hot **** what would you do ?
2006-10-12 13:34:18 · 18 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stay and make the F****r miserable as possible
2006-10-12 13:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by MizTeri47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a girl but if someone was treating my sister like that I would tell her to leave as soon as the opportunity arises. In fact I'd force her to if she would let me.If he really loves you he wouldn't hurt you that way though he probably doesn't mean it and is most likely speaking from the head and not the heart. I think he just likes the feeling of power he has over you and knows you can do nothing about it.The second he feels he will really lose you he'll come crawling back to you if he really is in love with you.The key thing is to hold out and show him who's boss because he's not going to believe you at first if you do leave him but the moment he realizes you're serious he'll beg for you to come back.I'm a guy myself and if I really love a girl I'd go to any lengths to get her back and woe to the person who gets in my way!
2006-10-12 20:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by cookster 360 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone kept telling me to leave every time we had an argument I would prepare to leave. He obviously isn't mature enough to deal with real life and the problems it presents. You need to find your own life and stop relying on him. If he has alot of money now as you say, he may even hold that over your head. Do youself a favor and bail out before he puts you out into the street. Be good to yourself.
2006-10-12 20:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would drop him like a bad habit. If someone truly loves you, they would never hold over your head that you have no place to go. Every couple does get into a fuss now and then, but to intentionally hurt someone by holding it over their head that they don't have anywhere else to go is just plain cruel. He is abusing you emotionally, and it seems that he's also working on destroying your self-esteem. No woman deserves this. And if he used to take you places, and now that he has money, he has stopped taking you, should signal that he probably isn't being faithful to you, either. You deserve far better than this jerk is giving you! You need to prove to him, but more importantly to YOURSELF that you can and will make it without him. This relationship to me seems vey one sided, and it's time for you to stand up for yourself, get some dignity, and move on without him. Best of luck!!!
2006-10-12 20:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by loviesteele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to keep reoccuring. He knows you rely on him and that feels like it gives him control over you.
I wouldn't put up with this. Depending on how old you are, I'd get a job and start making some of your own dough. Don't give it to him or whatever, cause you think you "love" him and that he "loves" you when really if he's holding that over your head all the time and he's serious about it, he doesn't love you.
And if he ever gets abusive, I'd break up with him and start my OWN life.
2006-10-12 20:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Reina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave his *** yo!! Im a guy so i know what these things mean...it just means he thinks he's the ..it and he supposedly can get whatever girl comes his way.he has no control over you. you seem like a nice girl u need to get your own place, a job, and a car and do your own thing obviously he wants u to leave so leave him!! eventually he'll figure out what he's missin when ur gone...
2006-10-12 20:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by YaBoiMarcus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that he's not interested in you anymore, but don't leave when he tells you to. Secretly start a new life and then leave him without him aware. Save some respect for yourself and do what you need to do, not what he wants you to do!
2006-10-12 20:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by CATCATMEOWMEOW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie,,my answer is one you probably wouldn't want to read but i bet you 'll get alot of it,,,,,,leave,,don't degrade yourself by staying and let him treat you that way. you do have family right? even a friend,,i bet if you tell your friend's mom what you're going through they'd let you stay until you can get on your feet. even the church in your area,,,don't say there's no place to go ,,you just haven't looked for one yet......
2006-10-12 20:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by ggmsixer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay and try to work it out. And if you to have been dateing for 9 years I think you'd know him well enough to not get him upset.
2006-10-12 20:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Chris Brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself, and your ego, leave him, it's just not worth it. Find somebody, who will care for you. Nine years is way to long a time to spend on him.
2006-10-12 20:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say fine, after all this time you want me to leave over that then fine, let's see the next time i come back to you!! or something like that!
2006-10-12 20:36:10 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋