Hi I've been best friends with my best friend (duh) since we first met in 6th grade. Everything was really great and cool up until now, our first year of college. She met a new girl that always bugs her to hang out with her and stuff. They were hanging out a few months or so and I was still her best friend but lately she has suddenly stopped calling me period, and when I call she won't pick up and wont return my calls. THis all started because she got mad that I wouldn't take a job with her that was a 20 minute drive away!!
Should I just let her go? What did i do wrong!?
2006-10-12 13:34:15 · 11 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As people get older they drift apart. If a simple job broke up your relationship then that's pretty lame. Move on and think of good memories.
2006-10-12 13:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. You'd think by now that your friend was past the high school attitude.No friend should be mad because you chose not to take a job with her. She sounds a little spoiled.
Have you ever known her to be flakey? People don't change overnight.
I think you should just give her some space. I don't think you did anything wrong. I do think you should talk to her, though. Maybe something is going on her life that she hasn't told you about.
Also, when it comes down to it, friends are great to have, but not the drama. You need to focus on college. Do you really have time for this pettiness? It will only distract you from your goal of a college diploma. You need friends that will stick by you, not ones that just flake out.
2006-10-12 20:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't force her to keep in contact. We all loose and gain friends in the begginging of a school year. Especially when to change from school. Same thing happened with me and my best friend from the 6th grade. I always had to call het during the summer. I just tough, I shouldn't have to beg her to talk to me. if she doesn't want to talk to me then I will make other friends. I mean she has no excuse, they both have our numbers where to contact us.
And that is how life is, we make and loose friends. But those that you make in college will last more than the ones from before.
Where are you attending college?
2006-10-12 20:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by godfathermock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your best friend cuz it is obvious that you stil care and Im sure she does too. If you are trying to contact her let her know through text or vociemail, etc how you feel. Give this a week or two and go from there. If she was ever your true best friend I know she will understand
2006-10-12 20:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Teee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't lose a friend you never had ! What is a friend, anyway? A "friend" is someone who you trust. Once trust has been violated, you find yourself "hurt" - down cast. Trust violated is very difficult to patch. Your former friend is "fitting in" with the pop crowd as she perceives it, in her own eyes. She is only conforming to be "in". Don't allow yourself to be manipulated (controlled)
by her. She has to learn to be in dependant in life and she has to learn when someone says "no" - it's "no". She'll get over it eventually and is for now, punishing you. Let her be and don't "dance" to her tune. Live your life as usual and work on your studies. I have a feeling that she will eventually grow up and come back to you. Your part in this is to be mature about it, forgive her and speak to her about when you say "no" you expect her to "suck it up" and act maturely on it. ( You have to do the same for her choices too when she says "no" - it's a two-way street!)
2006-10-12 20:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if she doesn't call go visit her to see what's going on. and about the job talk to her so she can understand and make a compromise with you.try to make her see your side of this and that friend that she has maybe saying thing to put her against you. give this friendship one more shot because is not worth loosing.
2006-10-12 20:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by *Cherrytop* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. W3ell um maybe you could tell her how you feel, etc. You have to tell her how yoiu really feel. If she doesnt listen, I would say let her go. Friends coem and friends go. Good luck. Try to talk to her. Work things out.
2006-10-12 20:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is time to start a new life without your best friend.
he or she have his or her own reason(s) but it is better not to know too much about the reason(s) and start a new life without him or her unless he or she comes back to you.
just pray for him or her in your silent prayers and he or she may also have to start a new life just as you need to.
if he or she comes back, just treat him or her as a normal friend who have just came back from a very long journey in life.
mercury of love
2006-10-13 06:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow harsh dont let her go just confront her and sayim srry but i didnt want drive that far or you didnt like it , why didnt you want it in the first placeits only 20mins
2006-10-12 20:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by [o3.13.93] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam younger then you but i have had lose of alot of friends,i know about 6year bond i have an 8 .but give her one more chance but NEVER beg her . iam so sorry!!!!
2006-10-12 20:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋