this is to find out myself, but also a look at society. i see 15 year olds, and they say that they love each other.
when i was 15, i had my first proper kiss, but it wasn;t love, and i knew then it wasnt love, i knew it was just lust, i'm 19 now, so theres not much diffo maturity wise.
the question is, how do u know what love is at that age, i personally believe, you never know how much you love someone or something, until its gone.
sadness is part of it, but there's also beauty in it
2006-10-12 13:06:59 · 8 answers · asked by Brutal_Yet_Beautiful 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
bf, gf, love i mean
2006-10-12 13:07:48 · update #1
Love is wanting to be with the other person, and respecting them and protecting them.
Love is love at any age. Dont analyze it, just enjoy it while you have it.
I am 29 and had the usual teenage crush which was very intense. Now i in a relationship which is more chilled and relaxed, but it is still love.
Relationships and feelings change and as you grow up you learn how to deal with those feelings more effectively (such as lust, or pain of being dumped).
Thats the only difference that age gives you on love. It still feels the same, though........ damn good!
2006-10-12 13:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by PEP 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had my first proper kiss at 14 and was convinced I was in love, my mom went mental with me and told me I was been stupid as I was far too young to know what love was, the older I got the more I realised it was just a crush and it wasn't real love, when I met my hubby I knew straight away I was in love with him and that was before I even knew his name, I heard the harps, angel song and the whole kit and caboodle, I knew what real love was like from that day forward and still experience all the best of his today, I never want to lose him because I am lucky enough to know that I don't have to do that to know what real love is like, I am very sad when were apart each day but have the beauty of it to keep me going until he is home again.
2006-10-12 20:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 10 year's as I thought I was in love.As we grew up we grew apart and split.She is and as it seems was always my best friend. Then about 2 year's ago I met someone and fell so damn hard it still hurts at times.I don't know if maturity helps or even is a factor. A friend of mine from College has been with his wife since they were15 and celebrated 23 year's together just recently. But they deny being in love now.Damn the more I try to answer this one the deeper it all seems to get.GET IT?
2006-10-12 21:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by willievergetaloginname 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Good question, and tough to answer at the same time!
I don't remember acquiring lots of maturity between 15 and 19 either.
Love should be more than sexual attraction, that much I can tell. But otherwise, be patient about it...
2006-10-14 08:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by todaywiserthanyesterday 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love means something different at different times and stages in your life. When I was 16, I was deeply in love. When I was 20, I was deeply in love with someone else in a very different way. Now I'm 30, married and have I child, and again, I'm in love in a different way.
You could compare what I have now with what I had when I was 16 and say, ah that wasn't love, but it was to me. And who can decide whether you're in love or not apart from you?
Just because you're 15 doesn't mean your not in love, it's just that what constitutes love changes throughout your life and you're bound to look back on your younger days with the benefit of your years of experience.
You might look back in a few years and decide that what you had when you were 15 WAS love after all.
But yes, losing it does bring home what it meant
2006-10-12 20:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Andy B 2 · 10⤊ 1⤋
You may get many answers to this.. All may provide some intersting aspects. This is one that might take a while to understand.
First : We need to separate (LOVE) into its many parts. Forwithout this, the question becomes twisted within itself.
Lets remove those parts to see what the meaning of love is.
SEX is love... Or at minimum one would need a certain amount of love for the partner to allow for it to take place. The humman language uses words for more than one meaning.
One can make love, and it means SEX. But does it really... Well... If you tell someone you made love, then they believe you had intercourse ! What about a shot...? Could be a Doctor gave you one, or a Bartender, or even a criminal, or cop..
So let us remove "Intercourse" "Kissing" and all the Physical elements that are used to limit or define (LOVE).
A long time ago, there was a move called, of all things, LOVE STORY ! In this movie you will find what love is. I mean never to have to say you're SORRY.
But what have we learned today... Its a fgancy thing for a movie to dish out for sure... In English terms... LOVE is TRUST !
REAL TRUST... TRUST to the DEATH... Since most people lack this fundemental aspect or a relation, the true portion of LOVE is not ever there... This despite great SEX and even all other aspects for which one can define properties of LOVE.
The reason SORRY is not required is because the other party knows you did your best for the other. This is never in question... Even when harm comes by as a result. The other pewrson knows it was not done to them from anger, or to be mean.
TRUE LOVE mind you... Well.... This is very rare indeed.
Very few people ever discover it. We go about our lives and say we love this person and that person etc... TRUE LOVE - is 100% love. It is almost ipossible to offer it to more than one person, because of the trust required of it. When present , all aspects of a relation change ! SEX is now not just a great time, it becomes a magic of its own. It becomes one person where there were two. It becomes the very best feeling of shared experience that can ever take place.
On the other siode of the coin, is standard love... Its great too !
And there is nothing wrong with two people getting their shar of a good thing, but this is not ( TRUE LOVE )
Here is the test. Your partner stands in the line of a bullet fired from a crime scene. You have the ability to stop time ! This is pretend here...
Only one of you can get out of its way before time restarts... You need to choose ? Do you let it kill your partner ? Do you push your partner out of harms way, and allow it to kill you instead ?
This is TRUE LOVE... It is seldom found in nature. This level of love and TRUST cannot be purchased. Many times it is found in a mother or a father, and it can never be as strong with a stranger, but nature has its own plans for us.
We mate with strangers ! Remeber that rule. Nature's goal is to survive... The plan is constructed without our feelings in mind. We will have SEX we will cheat, and steal, and lie, and bit and hit and kill. Humans are violent in nature. ( Bush -vs- Sadam )
( Jew vs Muslim ) ( Fidel vs Infadel )
All this is the rest of the world... We strive for peace, but ther cannot be peace because we race toward SEX and survival of our kind. Work takes a lot from us each day... We cannot wait to get home to sleep. Take a break from life itself...
TRUE LOVE is something we all seek, because its a break from all the other things we fight through in life.
To get True Love we must be willing to drop everything for it.
Even LIFE itself.... Whe two people LOVE at this level then there is TRUE LOVE.
I would do anything to have my Father back, but time will not allow for this. I would die for him to return, but nature has other plans. I am to die and leave my boy to this struggle of power and life. Because that is the way we are built, and that is life.
TRUE love will come, and its is most often found in a balanced family, which ironically must have been born from SEX and from love which might not have been TRUE love. Mostly because the TRUST is not a father or a mother to us... We are stranges and that was the original intent !
I hope you think my answer to be TRUE and one you believe is right. It is my opinion, and I have been around the world. The world we all race in.
Love has found you once before, and it was TRUE or you would not be here. This is not always true, but like anything else there are exceptions. You could find TRUE love again... But its very very hard to find this. Love yourself first, and others will too, but when you find the one you want, then give TRUE love a chance.
You might be one of the few that find it. Don't worry if you don't, nature has its own plan for you anyway, and after that then there will be TRUE LOVE again, only this time you will be the parent !
8-)
2006-10-13 22:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by Skin 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
John Lennon said 'Love is wanting to be loved'
It is so difficult to explain, but when I am with someone and things aren't going as well as I wish, I always think about that. He also said love is ....many other things in his song called 'Love'.
It is still my favourite song since I was about 14 or so. I used to listen to that song and felt so emotional not because I was going out with someone at the time, but maybe I wanted someone to love me unconditionally and for give me for being selfishly who I was. I couldn't explain what love was, but maybe what I felt was a good start to understand it with.
I was a child. But I still feel like that even today, time to time.
2006-10-12 21:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by ono 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
im 24 and i still dont no what love is i use to think i did but not that young its just a word to them
2006-10-12 20:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by chip305 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋