There is a repeating situation between me and my bf. It goes like this: he comes home first emotional but very tired, sits down and soon goes inside himself. All my attempts to connect to him – evoke irritaion. The same can happen anywhere - at the restaurant, at the movies, shopping - any place he enthusiastically invites me for an "emotional experience" or in other words "for fun"- ends up often as "bombed down". I started to develop some sort of panic about it. It always gets me as a surprize. I can't stand silence. Everytime when there is an emptiness, heavy silence, I suffer. A few days ago I tried to change it by asking: "what's wrong?" The answer is "nothing". I tried to introduce an emotional topic for me - the reaction is "let's not talk about it now". At the end I asked "is this a comfortable silence for you? The answer was "yes, because I am eating". I said that it was not comfortable for me and I got a big wave of negativity and cursing, was sent you know where...I don't know what to do.
2006-10-12 12:42:30 · 6 answers · asked by NONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, this is not anywhere close to normal. Are you really serious about dating someone like this? Can you see spending the rest of your life with someone like this? Why torture yourself. Get out of this relationship and go find someone that will enjoy spending time with you. Trust me life is too short to be with someone that will only cause you grief in the long run. Be happy and know that someone else is happy because they enjoy you.
2006-10-12 12:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by VR 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not autism. he may be a little depressed, or he may be tired, or MAYBE, it's a perfectly fine situation and the problem is that you don't like silence. not autism though. read on:
"Autism is classified as a neurodevelopmental disorder that manifests itself in markedly abnormal social interaction, communication ability, patterns of interests, and patterns of behavior.
Autism may not be physiologically obvious. A complete physical and neurological evaluation will typically be part of diagnosing autism. Some now speculate that autism is not a single condition but a group of several distinct conditions that manifest in similar ways. Recently, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine have found a link between autism, abnormal blood vessel function and oxidative stress (the result of higher levels of free radicals). The study suggests that, if researchers can find more evidence linking decreased blood flow to the brain and oxidative stress with the pathology of autism, improvements in therapy could be found.[4] One factor noted about autistic children is they have on average a larger head circumference.[5]
By definition, autism must manifest delays in "social interaction, language as used in social communication, or symbolic or imaginative play", with "onset prior to age 3 years", according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. The ICD-10 also requires symptoms to be "manifest before the age of three years." There have been large increases in the reported incidence of autism, for reasons that are heavily debated by researchers in psychology and related fields within the scientific community."
2006-10-12 19:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a new boy friend. sounds like he not there for you. i married a man like that and it takes a great toll on your self esteem. escape the silence while you can.
2006-10-12 19:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by territheterribleliar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is autistic and I don't think that's what this is. This just seems like he's a jerk...
2006-10-12 19:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Budgirl5268 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be bi-polar.
2006-10-12 19:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmmmm...not autism, but bipolar disorder.
2006-10-12 19:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋