Both have been married for over 25 years and have children and grandchildren. Neither one wants a divorce, just an affair between old high school sweethearts.
2006-10-12 12:34:24 · 16 answers · asked by debi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The two having an affair each have spouses that are unaware of the affair
2006-10-12 13:43:42 · update #1
Where has the value of marriage gone?! Married 25 years? Aren't they a little too old to be whoring around?
2006-10-12 12:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? I really dont see anything to accomplish by doing so. What happened years ago should remain there. Trying to relive younger days never works and there is so much that has happened since those days, why take the chance and ruin what you have. Yeah, you can go ahead and do it but can you live with regrets that do come with affairs and what happens if you are sorry you did do it. You can never turn time back. You had some good times long ago but it didnt materialize into something long term so why tempt fate and what makes you so sure those feelings of yesterday will reappear again since it didnt work then. We all would like to return to some past point in our lives and relive that moment(s) again but there is a reason why we cant. So the most you can hope to accomplish here is bringing two old high school sweethearts together again some 25 yrs later and trying to relive some old memories that should remain just that. But youre old enough to know what youre doing and definitely dont need our input out here unless there is some doubt somewhere in the back of your head. Remember its not having what you want but wanting what you have. Think about it and good luck
2006-10-12 12:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes absolutely. But I'd really like to make a comment to all the self-righteous young people who act indignant about older people having an affair. Especially the person who made the comment about being too old to be whoring around. I hope that when you're 50 you find yourself in a loveless, sexless marriage and see how you feel. Love and desire don't turn off at a certain age. And if it's done discreetly, sometimes such an affair can add joy to a time when pain is ever more your companion. Maybe it can even make life worth living again
2006-10-12 13:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by bondo 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure it has happened before but the question is...why even do it? Why hurt the very people u gave your vows to when they find out? Just because u have been married 25 yrs, have children and grandchildren, it doesn't change the fact that u are still married.
2006-10-12 12:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. That is totally wrong. If both partners are that sick then they both need to see a marriage counselor and try to save their marriage. 25 years is a long time to just give it up because they want to have an affair with someone else. Sounds like they both have deep rooted problems that only a marriage counselor can fix for them.
I hope they can save their marriage and try to work it out.
2006-10-12 13:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't begun this affair, and are just in the contemplation stage, don't go any further. An affair will only cause at least one person pain...if not more than one person. If not you, then maybe your lover, and if not him, then perhaps his wife, or your husband, or your children or his children (even if they are grown, you are still mom or dad to them).
Let this one go, and just relive the old high school memories, you'll will be glad that you did.
2006-10-12 12:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes ma'am they most certainly can and alot I mean alot of people do this and even though God is the real Judge of us all alot of people think this is sooo wrong and in my opinion as long as they are discreet and no one is hurt what harm is it? Besides for the people I know it makes their marriage sweeter, it's been described to me as a secret that keeps them going and have hope to each it's won be safe and careful!
2006-10-12 12:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by shawtypimp2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the two married people and what they want to do. no one says that they HAVE to have a divorce. They have to be willing to make the individual changes and changes to their relationship that are necessary in order for it to work.
In short, yes
2006-10-12 12:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by GIG45TXFL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's possible.
But probably, especially if it goes on a long time, someone will get caught.Then it's game over.
2006-10-12 12:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that makes me sad...i am picturing my mother, and how heartbroken my father would be if he found out.... marriage is for life...thick and thin... i'm at a loss of what to say...
2006-10-12 12:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋