after a fight with your man why do they go out all night not answer their fone & basically blame you ??

Answer 1

Hey! : )

1) i think its because fighting is bad, and you both need to chill off, its good to chill off : )
you could do the same, go out or do something else whatever helps the situation cool down / get better! : )

this should be better for the relationship, get positive and when you both are calm that helps the relationship.

- also communicating differently (in general) would help since you arent really getting anywhere with fighting. he shouldnt fight with you either.

- many people find its good to get away from conflict avoiding upsetting situations. if you are in an upsetting environment you will behave that way / turn away or rebel. its just part of normal behavioural economics.

- dont be paranoid/ negative or instantly accuse him of having an affair (bad communication leads to crappy relationships - instead concentrate on positive energy and positive times you could be having. and good communication) personal space is always needed for everyone and in healthy relationships : )

------ be positive, have control, take time to assess what is going on in the relationship : )

2) - or he is having an affair and this is an excuse to do things without confronting you.(usually part of emotinally abusive relationships or guy gone mad!!! or relationship gone bad)

3) or because he feels he can walk all over you and know that you will be there when he returns. or because he doesnt want to accept responsiblity of what he is doing wrong. he's scared or lazy.

it takes two to fix a problem and compromise - you could surprise him and leave. see his reaction , heh, heh : )

?? i dont know but i hope this is somewhat helpful ??
although, Good Luck with everything ; )

Answer 2

That doesnt sound good!! You need to think about what you said to him to make him so mad at you and the same goes for him. I would seriously sit down with him and have a talk! Especially if he is out all night. You never know what he could be doing. Good Luck, my man never did that, we would just take a break from each other for an hour or so, and then have a talk about our fight.

Answer 3

I have never once had that happen to me and I am 56 years old.
Also I don't have any friends that have had that happen.

The guys that do that, haven't grown up yet. They use partying as an excuse to not face being an adult in adult situations.

I think perhaps you need to find a guy who is more mature and has grown up ways of dealing with stress.

And guys or even gals who blame, aren't secure enough in their self to admit that they were part of the problem. The word blame needs to get out of a relationship.

Answer 4

I tend to make poor choices when I'm angry. Emotions get in the way of reason. I also need time to think for myself, without "input" from others, no matter how well-meaning. All that said, there is a pretty simple answer. When you fight with a man, it puts distance between the two of you. Men are very physical beings. We put physical distance between us when we feel emotional distance. Your anger at him not answering your phone is your problem, not his. Just because you call, doesn't mean I have to answer. Just because you want to talk doesn't mean I do. And, as a man, I have the right to make that choice. Not you.

Answer 5

I can understand if he left for a while, best thing to do instead of fighting or worse, but to stay out ALL night!? No, something is wrong there no doubt. Not answering phone after a while would also be understanding... After only a while. It would be nice if he did just to tell you that he doesn't want to talk to you right now. It is always easier to blame someone else than to admit they are wrong. A man thing. Most women will tell you that men are dogs... most of them are but not all of them! I think I would follow him one night just to see for myself what he MAY be doing. He sounds like he doesn't like to talk NOR work things out... BAD deal there!

Answer 6

obviously they are using the fight as an excuse to do things that they wouldn't have the guts to do otherwise. Possibly the fight was purposely started? Think about it a bit. It also tells you a lot about how they really feel about you.If I felt I had to do this after a fight with my woman, then I would be questioning why I am there to begin with.

Answer 7

Don't know why some men do that. My husband has never done that, ever. I know that when u have an argument, sometimes they need to cool down but they shouldn't be gone all night.

My suggestion is...when he's away, try not to call him and bother him. Let him cool off.

Answer 8

To be honest, that is what I sometimes do when the argument is my boyfriend's fault, he doesn't yet see it and we've been going round in circles for ages. Just for space. I do answer the phone though. Don't react, go on your own great night out.

Answer 9

Sometimes they just are mad and need to get away from the situation completely and cool down.

Sometimes they are opportunist pigs who are cheating and picking a fight to be able to leave for the night and not be able to be reached.

You gotta differentiate. If its the 1st one you need to talk and come to a compromise on what is acceptable behavior after an argument.

Answer 10

Some men,any excuse.I never bothered phoning my husband.I got used to the space...and HE had plenty of that(say`s alot),`n why dont they see an argument through eh?.Coz they want to be dominant,cant handle being wrong etc.Perhaps Your man`s deliberately causing fights so He can stay out all night...possibility