How come these people cant just "be"? Instead of worrying and fretting all the time?
2006-10-12 12:27:10 · 8 answers · asked by Sandra0071 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You finally realize that you can't go back, then you tend to feel like you have to fix everything. Whether or not it's broken. (And alcohol doesn't work like when you were 18)
2006-10-12 12:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Andy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've seen, that isn't necessarily true.
If, however, people of that age seem to worry more it could be because people of that age may have children, marriages, homes to pay for and other bills, and the knowledge that paying for college for children isn't far off. People of that age may have aging parents, and life takes on a whole new dimension when one watches parents age. There can be issues with the children's school.
If these people haven't yet started a family or don't yet see a way to have a home they may feel time is running out.
Generally, "just being" is what children, teenagers, and people in their twenties have the luxury of doing. That's why people say people shouldn't rush into having children too soon or shouldn't drop out of school (because when people get older they sometimes have other worries that would make concentrating in school difficult).
What you may not know, though, is very often - no matter how old someone is - they may actually find a little time in each day where they make sure they get to "just be" for just a little while.
I don't think you should generalize about any people in any age group because sometimes the only examples you have are someone in your own small circle who does something. You probably just have to try to understand that if it looks like someone is full of angst there's a good chance they have things to worry about that may not be obvious to you.
2006-10-12 19:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's generalizing a bit isn't it? I could say the same about alot of teenagers these days. My daughter has known many friends who worry and fret and have anxiety/depression also. One of which committed suicide last spring! I don't think it's in any one age demographic...just maybe you notice it more in that range perhaps.
2006-10-12 19:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lesley P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, by that age, people have settled down. Half their lives have been spent. When they were kids, they could dream of what they could be. Now they are one person. They have already reached the top of the mountain. Now they are climbing down, and the trip down does not have a strong motivation behind it.
2006-10-12 19:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by zippo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1/3rd of their life is done with! Health starts going downhill if not taken care of. Retirement worries, if not taken care of in the 20's planning for.
Its the should of, would of, could of story of their life... If they only did this that way or this way instead of the way they did it.
2006-10-12 19:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that the folks to which you refer are not where they had hoped to be by that age.
2006-10-12 19:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what generation you are!
Perhaps they are just becoming assertive, and it appears as
anger?
2006-10-12 19:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
midlife crisis!
2006-10-12 19:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by beruto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋