MY SECOND MARRIAGE, HE HAS BIPOLAR 3, AND HAS MANIC DEPRESSION. HE TAKES 5 OR 6 DIFFERNT MEDS. HE IS SCARED TO MOVE ONE HOUR AWAY FROM HIS PARENTS, (HE'S AN ONLY CHILD AND 42 YEARS OLD), TO MOVE IN WITH ME... HE CUTS HIMSELF TO RELIEVE STRESS IN HIS LIFE. HE IS VERY INSUCURE AND CLINGY, TO ME... I AM GETTING SICK OF IT. I ONCE LOVED HIM SO MUCH I WOULD HAVE DIED FOR HIM, BUT I DON'T ANY MORE. I HAVE TRIED TO GET IT BACK FOR HIM, FOR THE LAST 2 YEARS, AND HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO. HE DID SOMETHING TO RUIN MY LOVE FOR HIM...IS IT TO LATE FOR ME TO GET MY LOVE BACK? I LIVE BY MYSELF AND LIKE IT VERY MUCH. I AM NOT WANTING ANYONE ELSE. I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP. I JUST DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD PUT THE EFFORT INTO THIS MARRIAGE IF IT'S A LOST CAUSE...
2006-10-12 12:26:24 · 11 answers · asked by next.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I left him last November. He does go to counciling. I am not pethedic, I just and am a strong woman. But I just belived this marriage would be it, my last. I recently became a christian and, well I don't want to sin, remember in sickness and health....
2006-10-12 12:39:32 · update #1
Girl- i don't think God would hold this against you-Look at how ur letting yourself be! Girl you need to enjoy life,be happy,be your own person. If you just become a christian-then you know God doesn't want us to be unhappy and depressed all the time!
Stop and take a good look at what this guys doing to you.
~~~~~~~~~Good Luck to you~~~~~~
2006-10-12 12:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My marriage is ending in much the same way, except it was just a lack of love. I can't say that I know how you feel, but I can understand. It sounds like you've been through alot of rough times and have reached your wits end. I may be wrong. All I can tell you is to go with your heart.
2006-10-12 12:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a hard decision to make. Have you tried marriage counseling, or even individual? I would suggest that if you do decide to leave then you should at least have the obligation to get him help, being that he's so needy of you. Do you think he'd be suicidal? You shouldn't waste your life even if he would be, but you should do what you can to make sure he doesn't go through with it. Even if that means admitting him.
2006-10-12 12:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the Christian thing. no one goes into marriage anticipating a divorce. be grateful you aren't living together- get on with your life. living with a depressed person is a kind of hell on earth- you will never get your needs for companionship and intimacy met and it only gets worse, not better. Good luck
2006-10-12 12:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by harridan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, I thought I was a fool for love...but you have me beat. I don't mean to offend you, but this marriage is not a marriage...it is just a legal document...that is all it is. I would suggest you go into counselling...not for him, but for you. Good luck to you.
2006-10-12 12:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is no more than 3 marriages. After that, switch teams.
2006-10-12 12:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have to hand it to you , hats off to you. i could never go through that...and your asking how many times to try an make it work. you said it was too late to get your love back for him. then now is the time to quit. move on with your life and please find some happiness this time? you deserve it after going through so much!
2006-10-12 12:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jill... damn it you dont need this bs in your life... what are u waiting for, for him to make YOU crazy??? he cuts himself, is afraid to move too far from his parents... he needs therapy and as long as you and mommy are there, he will never help himself... right now he says there here they are my rock... then when life gets a little too stressful... wheres the knife, i cant take this... please.. he needs to grow up! think of yourself.... move on... make someone take care of you!
2006-10-12 12:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't living with him? Time to move on. You can't fix him and it's not your job. You need to find a more stable person to be in a relationship with.
2006-10-12 12:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl i think its a lost cause he will never be happy no matter whatt you do or say to him
2006-10-12 13:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by musicchild27317 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋