2006-10-12 11:38:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He thinks he hides it by erasing the history, but I have my ways. Honestly, though, I've quit looking for it. What's the point. It just irritated me, so I live in the "ignorance is bliss" category. I know he loves me, but sometimes he wants to get his rocks off I guess. I'm not different, I just don't need porn to do it.
My husband's grandpa says that "grandma doesn't care where I get my appetite, as long as I come home for dinner!"
2006-10-12 11:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I've been married for 27 years and if we've learned anything at all it's that looking and talking never hurts anyone, it's the TOUCHING that can get ya killed! (LOL) We both look, we both talk with attractive members of the opposite sex, but we also know it's in each others arms we'll be be every night. Sexual attraction toward another is a natural part of any marriage or long term relationship, the true test of LOVE is our ability not to act on that attraction(s). Our daughter had this same problem during her first year of marriage, I told her what I'm telling you and now there is no problem. Good Luck.
2006-10-12 11:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew my ex-husband was looking at porn. The part that bothered me wasn't him looking at it, but rather, him hiding it from me. I know he's not dead, and liked to look at women. I felt that if he was hidinig it from me, he must be hiding other things as well. Turned out he was having a relationship with a girl from London. He left me, we are divorced. I am better for it.
2006-10-12 11:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by ragamuffin_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think anyone should be surprised that men - no matter if they are married or not look at porn.
the only time someone should be concerned is when it seems to be ALL that they do (it is all consuming) or they are attempting to contact local women (who do porn) to hook up with them. other than that why even care? they are looking but not touching (well ok.. maybe just themselves) YOU are the one they do the two-step with. why care?
BTW.. in cases like MaNdYb's fiance... I would bet that he is just better now hiding it from her than not doing it. Guy's like to look.. its in their nature.. as long as they are just looking and the content they are looking at isn't illeagle (underage for example) why be upset that they are looking.. hiding it.. yes... looking? no.
2006-10-12 11:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to block all porn sites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet. http://www.NetDogSoft.com
2006-10-12 16:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he looks at porn he is commiting adultry, maybe not physically, but in his mind and his heart. He is cheating by going to another source for sexual gratification. Doesnt anyone remember in Church ..?? Jesus said. You have heard it said that one of my comandments is you shall not commit adultry, but I tell you today jJesus said that if you look with lust, that is the same as adultry in your heart..Maybe he isn't looking to leave, but his heart does leave when he looks at another woman and masturbates..How much longer than will it take before he actually does cheat.. This who argument about it being normal is wrong. Thats like saying killing is normal. It is a behavior that is downright selfish, Sex and sexual gratification was never meant for our own pleasure but to pleasure our partners and for making babies... Everywhere I look all I see is we are living in a world of get what is mine, all mine, be single, live free.... It makes me sick... 2 people,,Male and female, sex between them and them only..
2006-10-12 14:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by thinc77 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My man and I dealt with this problem before marriage. (we're still engaged) I just told him the flat out truth about how it made me feel, and he understood and quit looking at it. If it bothers you, let him know. I know personally, that it made me feel insecure, and that I wasn't good enough if he had to look at other women.
2006-10-12 11:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by MaNdYb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel cheated on, but it's really a disease/addiction like alcohol and drugs.
If he will get help; he can overcome it!!! Books, Counseling, etc
It really effects the sex life in a bad way when they are into that junk!
2006-10-12 11:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's "don't ask don't tell" for me. I would never assume he's "not looking", but I don't want to know about it, and it's fine with me. As long as it doesn't interfere with our time together or his other responsibilities, I view it as just another fun pastime.
2006-10-12 11:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was never secret about it, and I don't care if he looks. Heck, sometimes we BOTH do.
But I'm not a lot like most women.
2006-10-12 11:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋