I have recently found some old friends (male) on myspace and I have spoke with 2 on the phone. My husband thinks I am cheating. I enjoy talking to old friends male or female. I should have told him abot it when it happened. Instead he checked my cell bill.
2006-10-12 11:26:52 · 21 answers · asked by mswalls00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In this case, then yes. Because you wouldn't ask if your interest wans't peeked. You should never have that kind of interest in someone other than your spouse. You need to back out of the friendship as gracefully as you can. I know it hurts and it sux, but your spouse is the one who should be getting any kinds of feelings of love from you. It's his and his alone, and not ment for anyone else. If it's truly just a relationship as a friend and your feelings are "Eew! He's like a brother." Then your spouse needs to be able to let you be friends with other men. He should be able to trust you, knowing that all of those kinds of feelings are reserved for him. He should trust you. Talk to him and work it out.
2006-10-12 11:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by cbr♥fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can cheat on someone emotionally. If he does not agree with you talking to these people, you should probably stop, or at least cut back on the conversations out of respect. If he was talking to female friends, you would probably be uncomfortable with it too. If you continue the conversations, make sure you feel comfortable talking to these people in front of your husband, and mentioning your husband once in a while in the conversations to these people while your husband is present. This will reassure your husband that you are still number one in his life and that these male friends know that you are his. Anything you feel you need to hide from your husband is never a good idea. Healthy marraiges should never have secrets. Despite if it is wrong or not, hiding something from him will make him automatically feel bad and suspicious and make you look worse.
2006-10-12 18:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Clover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is some confusion between you and your husband. Be straight forward with him. As long as you are only talking to your old friends, and not discussing inappropriate topics, you are definitely NOT cheating. Being cheated on seems to be happening more and more these days, so that could explain your husbands accusations. This shows that he really loves you, and how he doesn't want to get hurt. It wasn't his place to snoop in your affairs, but since he has, simple explain, forgive, and forget.
2006-10-12 20:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Unsure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is too insecure. As long as you would allow him to talk with female friends, he ought to have no problem. Hvae you ever cheated on him? Maybe he just hasn't gotten over it. It is possible he is having an affair. Cheaters tend to be suspicious of their partners, and say things like that, do draw attention away from their own erratic behavior
2006-10-12 18:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Together 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should have told him. And is there any sex talk ? .. Would you want your husband to hear the conversations or is there anything that you would feel bad about ? Ask yourself those things. Then you know if you have been cheating or not in your own heart. Good Luck ! :)
2006-10-12 18:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not! He could be around the corner or around the world, it makes no difference, its jus a friend. You should have said it to your husband though, but I am pretty sure he is the jaelous kind.
Think how would you feel if you would caught him chatting with a girl and he didnt tell you about it.
The only BIG mistake you did was not to tell him, but that's it
2006-10-12 18:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's taking time away from the two of you doing things together or how you react to your husband then I would consider it cheating, but if its on your own time, and it has no effect on your guys' relationship then I'd say no it is not cheating.
2006-10-12 18:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your husband and really listen to his fears & concerns. After you calmly explain the situation, if he is still uncomfortable with you talking with old male friends, then don't. True it's your life and you shouldn't be told what to do - but you also did commit to a life with your husband, to foresake all others.
2006-10-12 18:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by crazybouthorses68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are flirting not cheating. To some couples both are unacceptable, to others flirting in moderation is acceptable. Your case sounds quite moderate but since your husband is not happy with you, then its wrong. To another husband it could be okay but not in your specific case.
2006-10-12 18:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by jackbauer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you're talking about. As long as there is no sexual issues talked about or even hinted at, I don't think it is considered cheating.
Yes you should have told your husband about the calls.
2006-10-12 21:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋