My ex moved out because he met another woman. He is now seeing her and two other women. Problem? He moved four blocks away. He takes the kids to play in the neighborhood park next door to my house. He rides the same train ( and if I shift the time I take it, three or so days later, he is taking that train, so I shift again.) He insists on letting himself in my house without my permission. We have two kids, 3 and 6. I really don't want to get a court order.
Any other alternatives?
2006-10-12 11:14:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
change the locks on your doors first
2006-10-12 11:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by crunchymonkey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Regarding the other women, STAY out of it. That is not your business, nor should you make it so. It will only complicate what sounds like an already complex relationship.
As for him letting himself onto your property, unless he's on the lease, he is trespassing. Explain to him you are not comfortable with him doing this, and ask for the key back. If he absolutely refuses, change the locks.
If he continues to stalk or harass you, this is the sign of a disturbed individual and you should not take the situation lightly. Do not put yourself or your children at risk. Seek professional help, and if necessary, get that court order.
I would, however, attempt to calmly talk to him about all of these issues first.
2006-10-12 11:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks on your doors. That will at least keep him out of your house. What you really need to do is sit him down and ask him what is going on with him. Ask him why he is riding the same train as you and switching when you switch. I figure he misses you but if he is willing to carry on with three women now, he will keep right on doing it.
2006-10-12 16:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful that he still chooses to be a part of your children's life...makes the financial support issues so much easier to deal with. Even though I know it is hard seeing so much of someone who not only betrayed you, but is continuing to hurt & betray others.
Yes, changing out your locks may work, but I suppose the kids would let him in anyway (who has the balls to tell Daddy "No!"?). Your best bet is to communicate your concerns to your ex, set some clear boundries, and go from there, if he continues to violate your space in ways you have told him not to. Try not to give him so much power over your life...what he does is no longer a concern of yours--except in how it relates to your children: ignore anything else, as hard as that may be.
2006-10-12 11:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he doesnt live they anymore or does he? Why suffer what have you got to lose.
Can he leave you again? Hes a part time father hes made his bed let him lie on it move on tell him your new stud wants the key. the sex is that good you dont wake till late and he lets himself in and out
2006-10-12 11:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by froggerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the house is in your name, change the locks. You may have to get nasty with a court order, tho.
2006-10-12 11:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks and start seeing someone. Its sounds like he wants it all, so let him know you can get some too.
2006-10-12 11:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks. Tell him not to come when your nopt there and get a court order.talking from experience
2006-10-12 14:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by lil kelvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your locks.
Make your train schedule random for a while.
2006-10-12 11:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your locks
if you live in an apartment building
ask the front desk not to let him up if you're not home
always switch the time you're on the train.
and if worst comes to worst, get a restraining order.
2006-10-12 11:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insist that he isn't allowed in your house. There are ways to stop him from walking in without your permission. It's up to you to find one.
2006-10-12 11:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋