I have four children.
2006-10-12 11:12:14 · 16 answers · asked by ragamuffin_t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to figure out what the problems were that led you to the first two divorces...if you think you can get through the next marriage without those problems coming up again, then I say go for it.
2006-10-12 11:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Flower 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder, why are you "endlessly engaged"? Is it because you are reluctant to set a date or is your FI? Do you really want to get married, or is it just something you feel you should do?
If there is a reluctance on your part to set a date, you need to be honest with yourself and determine why. If it's your partner, same thing goes. Find out why there is a blockage to total commitment.
As for having kids, I don't think simply having children means you should get married again. If you are happy with this man and think it would be good for you and your family, then go for it. If not, see the above paragraph about being honest with yourself and what you want.
Since you have been divorced multiple times, you might also want to look back and see why those relationships failed. It would be terrible for history to repeat itself.
Best advice: decide what you truly want and be totally honest with yourself and your FI.
2006-10-12 11:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to figure out your pattern....the ones you choose to marry. If your choosing the same type of people to be around then your life will not change but if you have changed your crowd for the better then you have a chance. On the flipside, if it was you who caused the divorces then you should definetly not marry again. Either way, you need to focus on the children and what is best for them.
2006-10-12 11:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is time consuming, costly, and painful if it ends up bad. That is why never rush into marriage. You should write down (on your own time) about what kind of person you want for marriage, and why you want this. You should also know more about yourself, and also to improve yourself to become a better person. Hopefully, while doing so, you will heal yourself emotionally, and make the right decisions without your emotions getting in the way. You can date, but not get married until you feel that you can make the right decision.
2006-10-12 11:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by DN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're engaged, you need to set a date and start planning for the wedding. To be engaged without a date in mind is, IMO, like not being engaged at all.
2006-10-12 11:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two divorces....I think you should stay single!
Obviously marriage is not your thing. And that's OK. But, come on you have 4 kids. Enjoy your life and maybe you can hook up with a wonderful "lifelong" boyfriend or something.
Some people just get freeked out when that piece of paper is signed.
DON"T SIGN IT AGAIN!!
2006-10-12 11:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say to yourself : This time I will make this work! and go for it.
I just hope your learning along the way otherwise you may be just repeating the same mistakes. You might look real hard at yourself and dig deep into your heart and soul and get real real with yourself. And then proceed
2006-10-12 11:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didnt work the first 2 times. I wouldnt.
2006-10-12 11:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by mswalls00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother getting married again, until you speak to a counselor & find out why your other relationships failed.
2006-10-12 11:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang!!! what makes u think this one will work?
save yourself the heartache, stress, sex, and money. don't bother! and you have 4 children? just focus on them kids, sistah!
2006-10-12 11:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by wizeguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋