I didnt mean to, I told her friend that I didnt think she was pretty, and of course (being the way girls work) the friend told her. Now I find out that the girl I called ugly really liked me and now she hates me! I didnt mean to make her feel bad what should I do?
2006-10-12 10:39:00 · 22 answers · asked by sdmagphil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't lose any sleep over it- you only said that you didn't consider her particularly pretty, you're not responsible for any exagerration or paraphrasing her friend did. Just wait a few days, at some point she'll change her hair or wear a new outfit- then you can casually comment to her friend that she's looking a lot better lately... That might get you out of the bottom pit of hell, and into purgatory, but don't count on it :)
2006-10-12 10:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by C-Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooooo. Not good. Never, I repeat never tell a girl that's asking you about their friend that they're not pretty. If the girl you're talking to is a really good, true friend she will be cool and keep what you say in confidence and wouldn't want to vicariously hurt the other persons feelings on your behalf. Girls can be MEAN.
M-E-A-N!! As far as talking to the other girl, I don't know, it really depends on the girl, but you could plead stupidity and tell her you have a difficult time expressing what you actually mean, and that in a dumb guy way that's what came out, but you didn't mean it the way her friend said it. I'm only saying this because I get the feeling her friend misrepresented what you actually meant, and I don't think guys are dumb but I think she may understand it if you say it this way... good luck.
2006-10-12 10:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by ts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you didn't ACTUALLY say the word ugly. Insist on her sitting with you, even for a cold drink for 10 minutes, and explain that you said she wasn't "pretty" in an airhead Paris Hilton, Pamela Anderson kind of way, and that she has a much greater beauty both inside and out. Most of us prefer to talk to someone who doesn't just think a "Pretty face" is their passport to life and love and everything.....
2006-10-12 10:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by Juliette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you never call a girl ugly or not pretty, otherwise you will be hated. Now I suggest you apoligize to her. Don't even think about lying trying to say you think pretty because she knows how you feel about you and will have a grudge for quite some time. You're sh.it outta luck with this one buddy.
2006-10-12 10:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is you said you didnt think she was pretty then you really didnt call her ugly.
Different people are attracted to different looks and maybe not pretty in your eyes is beautiful to someone else. You need to explain it to her that way.
2006-10-12 10:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude there is nothing you can do, you pretty much destroyed her self-esteem, and some girls may get depressed- I'd say be nice but don't get too close to her she might want to kick you. Learn from your mistakes, never do that again, when asked that question you just say that you personally do not find her attractive or just simply not my type- never not pretty
2006-10-12 10:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Katie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seriously i know u didnt do anything wrong but honestly u did a blunder mistake...i would prefer that u shld go straight to her and just tell her that i didnt say this intentionally and make her ur frnd...and just chill with her..she will feel better...and her feelings will get better for u...just smile and go for it...a smile is a curve that straighten up so many things...best of luck.
2006-10-12 10:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a sweet heart...you were only being honest with her friend, but you should have know the way us girls work....just apologize, obviously you don't like her in that way, right?
2006-10-12 10:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it ... tell her you are flattered that she liked you. Tell her that you were being a jerk, and was trying to look cool and said something you shouldn't have. Don't blame it on the girl who told, take FULL responsibility, and get to know her, guys seem to thinks so... but looks aren't EVERYTHING!
2006-10-12 10:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by skiwinterswimsummer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww.......... if you knew that us girls were like that then why did u even say that to one of her friends?!?! Gosh, I would feel so effin bad! Cuz you should be thankful that someone likes you... cuz you never know she could grow up to be pretty!!!! So, good luck!
And I bet you learned a lesson from that! From now on just tell YOUR friends. and have them not tell anyone and make then promise they won't tell!!! Jeez-O-Pete's!!
2006-10-12 10:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by ☆ Sarah ☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋