and you don't have almost anybody to turn to and trust? I believe in God, I pray hard, I do have faith in Him but it seems He has also gone................I am 50 and I just don't know what to do. On weekends and holidays is even worse........
2006-10-12 10:29:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A broken heart is a broken heart no matter whether you are 20, 50 or a hundred. Life does go on after a breakup. It takes time to adjust to life after you loose somebody that you are used to sharing your time with. Not all love relationships are meant to last a lifetime, nor are all loves good or healthy for you. Sometimes things change in a relationship and it is best for both parties to move on so they can find peace and happiness once again. You don't have to be involved in any relationship to find peace and happiness, you yourself can have a very fulfilling life on your own. You come into this world on your own, and you will one day leave this world on your own, finding happiness within yourself and having good people to share this lifelong journey with along the way is what makes life worth living. Take care of yourself, use this time to find out what makes you happy. You never know if you will find love again, but nothing will or could ever take the place of a good friend. Join some clubs, or take up a hobby that you can do with others in a craft store. Give yourself time to adjust to being on your own. In time things will become easier. For now, take care of you...
2006-10-12 10:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen Pretty Lady, I'm sorry you are feeling so sad, I have been there. My youngest brother died at 15, and my mom committed suicide because of the grief, it was probably the worst pain ever, I turned my back on God, my own kids and practically everyone else who loves me. After some soul-searching and some self pitying, I realized that I will not put my kids through the pain of losing me, after all I know how it feels to lose your mommy at a young age. Suicide is never a good answer, EVER!! Please Pretty Lady take my advice and see someone or if you need someone to lean on, I'm here... I counsel now for grief and it helps me and the other person I'm helping.
Take care...much love....
2006-10-14 10:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by irishprincess69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes God "protects" us in ways we don't understand. If a man left you, he wasn't the one God had in mind for you. This is a time where your faith has to sustain you. If you just trust that God knows better, you can start to heal and move on. I'm a woman, in my fifties. who lost her husband 5 years ago and I know it gets scary and lonely to be aging alone, but it doesn't have to be the end! Like the saying goes...It ain't over till it's over! Create a new life for yourself, have hope that it can happen...but you have to make it happen. We may get lonely as we age but we also can become quite powerful and self sufficient. No other person who walks away from what we have to offer is worth dying over! No one gets to have that power in your life. Thank God and believe he's watching out for you. He never, ever forsakes us. Doesn't always give us what we think we want, but loves us unconditionally and always!
2006-10-12 17:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by mlist32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, It happens to all of us so you're not alone. Just don't go out looking for the next thing because you'll end up thinking of the one that walked. Thats called rebounding. Not a good thing. The first months are tough but when you regain yourself and yourself respect you'll be much happier. I'm 52 and it happened 3 years ago to me. I take my time in the 5 steps of loss. And find life to be sooooooooooooo much easier. Hopefully this helps and if not , well what can I say. I am on yahoo and have messenger feel free to write if you so desire
2006-10-12 17:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by J B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really had enough faith in god you would not be asking this question
it sounds like a really tough situation
and god is always there
even if it doesnt seem like it
just trust in him
give him your sorrow
and let it be done
dont think about it again
because he will take it
isnt it wonderful to know he is someone so powerful that he can take all of your care and your worry and deal with it for you
let him deal with it
you just keep praying and be strong
cause when you have god youre never alone
2006-10-12 17:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by jes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Pretty Lady..........God never leaves us , it's us that leave Him. I bet your not getting your prayers answered because your not following Him as the Bible says we are to follow Him. It's very common to feel alone when God has shut you off. He wants to listen and answer you and bless you but you and most of this world have lived how they want and then come looking for Him in times of saddness or needy times. The remedy is simple.....open your Bible starting with the book of Acts and see how the early church was started. Peter says in Acts 2:38 " that they all should repent and be baptized to remove their sins". He knew he was talking to people who had just crucified Christ but even they were able to be saved if they OBEYED. Nothing has changed, same God, same rules. E-mail me if you want to talk more. I'll be praying for you.
2006-10-12 17:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please, whatever you do, don't commit suicide. Your life is more important than that. Please, call a counselor! Please, don't take away your life. its important that you live on earth. I've never met you before, but i know you are an important person. Please, just look at the good side at life, like joining a club that involves friendship with people your age. I believe in you, and never give up. With love!
2006-10-12 17:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by got118115147 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, have been in your place--you will get through it; even though you may not FEEL like it go to places where there are people(mall, church,school...) and just be around people-watch children in rheir excitement-just know there may be surprise in your mood just to hang out. hug
2006-10-12 17:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are NOT alone!!!! It will get better and you will survive. Women are strong!!!!!! Go to church and talk to your preacher. Find a strong woman friend to lean on!!!
2006-10-12 17:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God is testing you. Don't give up.
2006-10-12 17:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mattman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋