Her friends specified that they dont want anyone going on the cruise that they no except for the three of them.
2006-10-12 10:25:13 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's what you should do, tell your wife that it's okay with you if she goes on the cruise with her flirtatious females, but that since you are not invited, and so you won't feel left out or jealous, you're going to go on another cruise for singles by yourself. See what happens. I'll bet she'll decide not to go without you.
2006-10-12 10:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The others that answered the question all made some good points on both sides of the issue. The way I see it, if you are uncomfortable with it, you should tell her. I don't think it makes you any more insecure than a woman that doesn't like for her man to go to strip clubs. The man issue here to me is this: If she is going to do things that she shouldn't, she's going to. The cruise won't turn her into a different person. However, there are perfectly valid reasons for you to object that have nothing to do with you not trusting her. If I were her, I would wonder about the implications of telling my wife I wanted to go on a singles cruise. I would imagine that it wouldn't say good things to my wife about how I felt about being married.
2006-10-12 10:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't an issue of "letting" her go - you don't own her and you're not her parent. She can do what she wants without your permission. The issue here is why she wants to go on this cruise without you. Do you go off with your guy friends for a few days at a time? If so, she's letting you know that she has that same right. If you don't, then there is more of an issue. She may just be a little bored, you may be too controlling, whatever. You two need to talk.
2006-10-12 10:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am female and I love my husband very much, i would never think of going on a cruise without him. It is an invitation for trouble, it may not be her intentions on cheating, but the saying goes...you hang out in a barber shop long enough, your gonna get a hair cut. My personal opinion is that it's not healthy for a relationship, why take a chance. Good luck, hope she realizes your feelings are more important than a cruise.
2006-10-12 10:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by e_deckwa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust your wife? Since you are married to her, I would hope so. Let your wife go out with her friends and have a good time. Just because you aren't there to supervise it doesn't mean she's going to run around with the bartender.
If you have doubts about your wife's fidelity, keeping her from going on a cruise is not going to fix your problem. You need to analyze the situation and find out what's really going on (with you). If there are trust issues, you need to work them out either by open communication and/or counseling.
2006-10-12 11:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your wife is not a piece of property, and you really can't stop her from going with her friends if she wants to. Trust in your wife and the love the two of you have for each other and let her have good time with her friends.
2006-10-12 11:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think a weekend retreat for the ladies at a spa or someplace, but a party cruise with a group of single gals looking for fun? Not appropriate for a married woman.
2006-10-12 10:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to trust. I would tell my wife in many ways how I love her, then let her go. Be VERY romantic in the days leading up to her departure. Make sure no other man could compare, so that even if temptation comes along, she'll see through the BS.
If you don't let her go, you'll automatically be the "bad guy" and overbearing, regardless of how true it is.
2006-10-12 10:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying your wife wants to go on a cruise with2 other men? Why would she want to do that? I think that is trouble right there. I wouldn't let her go and i wouldn't want to go with 2 other men, exept my one husband. Even if the men have no flirting intension,it's not a good idea to tempt yourself like that.
2006-10-12 10:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by Rika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, Im tired of this next gen of adults that think they get thier special little "single vacations" away from thier spouses, and kids. If she wants to go on a cruise, you guys should go on one. Her single friends need another single friend. Youre her new best friend. Everyone wants the single unfettered life AND to be married too. God, whats happening to commitment.
2006-10-12 10:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by RamsGod 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋