how do you make them feel special? and how does your spouse make you feel loved, wanted and needed?
2006-10-12 10:20:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We aren't married yet, but will be next year (we have both been marrieed before tho and we do live together and have for nearly a year).
We both love each other and tell each other this many times a day (when on the phone while he's at work, when he is at home, etc). In the mroning before he leaves for work, he comes in, gives me a hug and tells me he is leaving, gives me a good long kiss, tells me he loves me, and that he will see me tonight. When he gets home, he gives me a hug and a kiss and says I love you. At night in bed, we snuggle together, tell each other good night, pleasant dreams, and I love you. I stay snuggled with him until he falls asleep, then I turn over. Sometimes he will turn over with me and snuggle with me quite a bit longer as it takes me quite a bit longer to fall asleep. I keep the house clean for him and do his laundry as I am the one staying at home. I handle the bills and mail and care for the 3 cats we have (yes, they are as much work as kids and are like our kids). He has 3 teen girls and we both spend time with them and I keep a good relationship with his girls and his ex. He will say sweet things to me all the time, out of the blue, buy and bring home things for me (usually chocolate) without my asking, etc.He is also very, very respectful of me and others, we refuse to argue with each other unless it really, really matters, he is there for me when I am down, something happens, or I am sick. I am the same with him. Out of all of this, I think that his respect for me is the biggest way of showing me how much he loves me. I have been in tons of relationships where I did NOT get that and got abused. We both refuse to abuse each other or others.
2006-10-12 15:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell them as often as possible. Leave lil notes letting them know you love them. Buy a single flower or more and get a nice card to go with it just to let them know you are thinking of them. Have romantic evenings such as dinner and then take a bath or shower together by candle light and soft music playing. There are many ways to show someone you love them but the most important thing is that you really mean it.
Yes I have done all these things and more and vice versa.
2006-10-12 10:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make a person feel loved is to let what you feel for them shine through. Be yourself. If what you feel is genuine love, you won't have to do anything special. If you want your love to show do something that you know they like, cook something special, bring them flowers, show up at their place of employment and take them to lunch. Get rid of the kids and spend a night at home alone, doing each other.
2006-10-12 11:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In love its the little things that are big things .
you already know what pleases him just be happy to do it.
My wife does certain little things that make me feel special:
1. She makes coffee for me every morning
2. She always smiles and says I love you for no apparent reason.
3. she always trys to make me laugh or she'll just be silly.
4. She keeps the romance alive esxually and often wears things that she knows turns me on.
5. She'll call me at work and ask if I have time to just chat a bit and then tell me something a bit sexy so when I get all worked up with anticipation.
6. She takes care of the kids
7. She thinks of herself last and the family and myself first
2006-10-12 11:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. I open doors for her. 2. I carry / lift heavy loads for her. 3. I massage her neck when she is stressed. 4. I pray w/ her and bless her 5. I leave love notes around. 6. I buy her a vanilla milkshake and whopper whenever she gets a headache. 7. I spend time w/ her. 8. I pick up after myself. 9. I stay neat and presentable. 10. I try to handle a fair share of the house/yard work. 11. I compliment her. 12. I make a mean brownie.
A. She rolls over in her sleep to be near me. B. She decorates so our house looks like I provide well for us. C. She shops w/ an awareness of our financial limits. D. She pays the bills and handles the mail/paperwork. E. She works w/ me on the laundry. F. She plants flowers. G. She accepts my disease w/o making me feel pitied. H. She always grooms herself so I can be proud of her when we go out. I. She is patient w/ life and me. J. She prays for me and blesses me. K. She LISTeNS to me. L. She makes a mean stroganoff.
I think I will go kiss her. Thank you.
2006-10-12 10:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been married 15 years today. Actually, and you just have to remember they are human and should be treated politely and with respect. The old "golden rule". Do unto others. Has worked well for us.
If you would not talk to your friend that way. Don't talk toyour spouse that way either. Be polite.
2006-10-12 10:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out what *he* considers special. You might think yuou are doing something for him that really is not what he needs or wants. Same goes for him.
My wife always wonders why I do not get excited about something she thinks will really please me. I have told her I appreciate the effort very much but try to explain what I want while asking her what she wants.
She would re-arrange the house for me. Guess what? I could honestly care less.
2006-10-12 11:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We both do some of the same things like massages, cooking, cleaning, taking each other out, buying things 4 one another, oral pleasure, making love to 1 another. I can go on and on.
2006-10-12 10:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by **What??** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i get up when he does and
i make him his coffee while hes in the shower and put it in a mug so he can have some while hes getting ready for work and make
him his lunch and the rest of the coffee in thermos.
less things that he has to do to get ready in the morning.
or if i leave 1st, i leave him a nice note on the fridge
2006-10-12 10:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married 20 years just sang a song for my wife first time. Flowers a lot!
2006-10-12 10:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Nevada S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋