I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, he asked me to move in with me as soon as we met... and the first couple of months I was over the moon.. he kept sayin he doesnt want anyone to steal me from him etc...
but its been some time now that I think he doesnt want me anymore...
My reasons are:
1) the other night we were taking photos and his ex was taking it he kept telling her that she should be in the photo too... but he never think of me that way .. I mean I keep taking photos usually even on my own birthday he was taking photos with me and never asked me to pass the camera to him to take some photo..
2) he doesnt have sex with me until I want it!
3) he thinks of me as his slave... expect the house to be clean, dishes to be washed as soon as dinner is finish.. etc.. but doesnt do a thing
Now I want to leave him but we have got a house which has contract for another 5 months and its joint contract.. I dont know what to do.. and I dont want to move back to my mum
2006-10-12 09:53:56 · 22 answers · asked by * 271805086182 * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do want to finish with him but I dunno what to do about the house situation and short of money problem :( (I am 24)
2006-10-12 09:56:42 · update #1
we are so good together.. all my friends says we should be together, even his parents like me like their daughter in law... and his mum once told him that he is not allowed to dump me cause I have done nothing bad to him..
2006-10-12 10:00:18 · update #2
dump this clown
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2006-10-12 09:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you love him? If you it just sounds like you guys are going through the hardest thing. Living together.
I suggest if you love him you guys start communicating and do it often. Not yelling a screaming or argueing but communicating back in forth each others concerns and this is hard to do as you might not hear what you want. then take a step back and listen and soak it in but he must do the same.
Set some ground rules of whom should be responsible for what duties in the house and if you work you have to explain to him that it can't all be on you and he must help. Remember most of the time you probably both want the same thing. But when things are not going well the little things become big things and it all builds up until someone has to explode. Sp let some air out of the balloon befor it pops by talking over each others concerns
2006-10-12 10:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this guy and move back with your parents. You dont have to be a sex slave or a house maid. Talk with the apartement manager and expalin to them the situation and what you can possibly do to get out of the contract. Good Luck!
2006-10-12 10:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by mrsoscaralvarado 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only fair to sit down and have a talk with him. State your concerns like you did here. Don't whine or accuse, just say what's on your mind. If you are nervous about this, rehearse it a few times to yourself so you know what and how you need to say. Have some endings planned out. If he says it's over, does he leave or do you? Can you remove your name from the lease without penalty? Think ahead, play it smart and it will work out in the end. On a woman to woman level, dump him, but remember...it takes two to tango.
2006-10-12 10:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you have a complex boy here...
Statement 1) would suggest that he is cheating on you, thats just what i gather, he would want to give her attention over you, if he wasn't cheating on you.
Statement 2) A)that could be out of respect towards you, he doesn't want to force on you. Which would be a good thing, but i'm against Pre-Martial sex anyways. B)However, it could be, that he is getting satisfied elsewhere, or doesn't find you attractive anymore
Statment 3) This is where it wraps it all up. And why i think he is cheating on you, because he just wants to use you to avoid doing things himself. Make you his slave, when its covientent towards him.
My suggestion. Either break up with Him, or talk to him about it, call him out on it, don't argue, just be concerned. IF you go after him, he is going to lie to you, just ask him whats going on, very very casually.
2006-10-12 10:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by dorf2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel... if he won't listen to you, then start making plans to leave, eventhough you can't right this moment. And tell him that he needs to start doing some work around there or you'll just not do it... and don't! His laundry is his responsibility, clean up after himself, do some diahes, etc. You are not his slave, whether you're happy with him or not. Stand up for yourself!
2006-10-12 09:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have signed a contract doesn't mean you have to live there...You can still obey by the contract by paying what you owe. Just speak to your landlord and explain your situation. Doesn't sound like he cares...Sounds like he still might have feelings for the EX...
2006-10-12 09:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Stars-Moon-Sun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and get him off of the contract- why should you have to sacrifice what you want for this shitbag? Sounds like you've already given up enough.
2006-10-12 09:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to get any better. Cut your loses now and move on before you get any further in this relationship. It starts out with you as his "slave" and ends up, you hating him and yourself for not doing anything about it earlier.
2006-10-12 09:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Great Nurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from this experience and hang in there until the end of the lease. Talk to him about his, he may want to break up also.
You need to be able to stand up on your own two feet.
Good luck.
2006-10-12 09:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to sublease your part of the apartment or house...if u dont want to be with him no more, dont let a joint contract tie you down...move back to your mom's place for now.
2006-10-12 10:00:02 · answer #11 · answered by casj2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋