I have a friend who is constantly on the verge of financial ruin - and is just scraping by by developing properties and selling them on. My garage is full of her stuff (as well as other friends places, and her ex's storage unit) - but she keeps having disaster after disaster - the kids now live with their father because the properties aren't fit to live in while she's developing them - and now her car is knackered and she can't take the restof the stuff from my garage. Should i give her an ultimatum? She's quite a firey scary person and it could be the end of the friendship. On the other hand, I need to empty the garage to put my bfs stuff in, so he can sell his house and move in with me....but I am not sure....we've been together 15 years but its been on and off.....and not moving her stuff gives me an excuse to put him off. Help! I just want my life back!!
2006-10-12 09:51:33 · 9 answers · asked by Miss Behavin 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've just experienced a similar thing with my friend ! (I think it's quite similar) She used my house as somewhere to get smashed every night, but since I gave birth in to my daughter in March, my priority has changed and I don't want her here every night filling my house with smoke, and getting drunk near my baby !
So I told her so! She now she has decided that she is no longer my friend, but I now feel a 100 times better. I feel like I'm in control again, I really do !
Tell your friend, if her stuff is not out of your garage in two weeks (I think that's ample time) tell her your off to sell what you can on e-bay (possession is 9 tenths of the law now isn't it ?) and give the rest to a charity shop, they have ways and means of disposing of unwanted stuff.
If your friend falls out with you, knackers to her, it will just make room for the friends you enjoy being with.
Good luck : )
P.S. like the name alot X
2006-10-12 10:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by kebablamb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my goodness! This "friend" of yours certainly knows how to "work the system"! She really needs to grow up and be responsible for herself. All of you should stop enabling her. As long as you and the rest of her "friends" keep storing her stuff and allowing her to use you in this manner, she will never change. It's commendable that you want to help, but find another way to do it.
Also, to answer the other part of your question...the boyfriend part...you're probably right about this being an excuse to put him off. That tells me that if, after 15 years you're still not sure about the relationship, it's time to move on. I'd tell them both to take a hike.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 10:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your house so you do what you dam well gotta do girl. I would bite the bullet and say I know its gonna be a nusiance to you but I need all your stuff out of the garage by such and such a date as my boyfriend is moving in. If you can't get rid of it then I will have to dump it. You got to be strong otherwise she'll be feeding you excuses all the time and your not being fair to your boyfriend by keeping him hanging on, you either accept thats it time to move in together or just carry on as you are.
2006-10-12 23:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a true friend, but a user...and you are a crutch.... Give her a date to have everything out, with the understanding that it will be sold or dumped in the garbage if she doesn't comply. And do it whether you have him move in or not!!! Then you WILL have your life back!
2006-10-12 09:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick your bf to the curb and let your friend and her kids move in, after all her stuff is there already anyway
2006-10-12 09:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple,sell your house and sod them all
2006-10-12 09:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a delicate issue, just follow your instincts
2006-10-12 10:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick them both to the curb....they're stressing you out
2006-10-12 10:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u gay?
2006-10-12 09:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by psycho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋