I just found out that I'm pregnant and I don't believe in abortion...I don't think I can take care of a child properly at this time,..I am 20 years old and this is my first time being pregnant. It's not that I can't take care of the child money wise,..it's that the father wants no part in this and wanted me to tell my child that he was dead. I want my child to have a father,..I know what it's like not to have one. Any advice???
2006-10-12 09:45:39 · 10 answers · asked by Killian's Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Open adoption is a great thing. My dad's girlfriend did this and says it was the best decision she ever made.
2006-10-12 09:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are SO courageous and selfless for even considering this option! You know, just because there is not a daddy around doesn't mean you don't have the opportunity to provide a wonderful life for this child, but if you should choose open adoption you can stay in contact with the family. When the child is old enough to ask questions about being adopted the family can then tell them that you are the real mother. Best of luck!
2006-10-12 16:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what anyone else says on here, you are a wise, responsible and courageous person for considering adoption. I was adopted at 6-days-old and my birthmother was 19 when she had me. She too knew she was not ready to care for a child and my birthfather was a LOSER so she knew she wanted to find a loving family for her child. I have nothing but the utmost respect for her because I know she had to have made an extremely difficult decision, but she still did what was right for her and her child. If you are considering adoption, then definitely check into it. It is a wonderful gift to give your child and the child's adoptive parents will be able to explain to him/her someday how much their birthmother loved them to find someone to give them the best possible life they could have. I applaud you for having the maturity to know your limits in raising a child. Just do what is right for you, whether it is keeping the child or putting it up for adoption, and know that there are people out there who will respect you for your decision!
2006-10-12 17:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by flowerangel_20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all comes down to what you think is best. I would never tell a girl not to have an abortion or to give her child up, but if the mother isn't ready and knows deep down inside she will be messing up the childs life I think she should put the baby up. I really want a child right now and would love to adopt a little girl. If it's a girl and you decide for open adoption please contact me.
2006-10-12 16:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby. He is not the only man in the world. You will meet someone else. I had the same prob I got preg at 18 the daddy and I split when baby was 3 months old. I made a life for us we where happy. Then I meet a wonderful man when my son was 2 he and I are now married with another baby boy and he has adopted my son. Babies are a gift from god. I think if you give the baby up you may wind up miserable down the road. GOOD LUCK .....
2006-10-12 16:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say keep the child i grew up withouth a father because my parents got a divorce when i was 9 yrs old and i really don't have any anger towards my dad my parents divorce had nothing to do with me it sucks that the dad don't want to take care of his kid if i was the father i would want to be part of my kids life 24/7 i don't believe in abortion either... so i say keep the child because you only have one reall birth mom in your life and there is nothing like the love of a mom... good luck.... i would not mind helping you out....let me know if you need a babysitter
2006-10-12 17:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by qtip23@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE 20 YEARS OLD YOU SHOULD NO BETTER KEEP THE BABY I COULDNT LIVE WITH MY SELF IF I EVER GAVE UP 1 OF MY CHILDREN I HAVE 3 MY 1ST ONE WAS AT 17 AND I WAS ALONE HES NOW 11 AND HE HAS A GREAT DAD HIS FATHER I CALL HIM A SPERM DONER, BUT HIM NOT BEING THERE, DIDNT MAKE ME WANT TO GIVE MY CHILD UP, YOUR CHILD WILL JUST LOOK 4 U WHEN HE OR SHE GETS OLDER
2006-10-12 16:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by bluueeyed2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the child he might come around you shouldnt give your child up because the father of the baby is an *** hole. make him pay and any ways there are always other guys out there who would love to be the father of the baby one day give it a chance.
2006-10-12 16:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU IN YOUR HEART. I AM A SINGLE PARENT OF TWINS, BUT I HAVE ALSO PLACED A CHILD IN AN OPEN ADOPTION (ANOTHER SET OF TWINS)
2006-10-12 16:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by JANET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't want a baby you shouldn't be having sex .. but are you and the baby healthy??/ we need to talk .. if you don't want this baby I can help I want kids really bad don't think I can have them .. send me a message back .. but don't kill your baby they are people out there that want kids that cant have kids .. but if you want kids keep the baby they are men out there that want kids to and would love to be with a woman that has kids.. please just don't do anything to hart your baby .. I would love to talk to you ... please
2006-10-12 16:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by nobodysangel2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋