So recenlty i was looking through my father in laws old cell phone, it has been turned off for months now, so i thought id just look at it. Since when it was on hed FREAK if anyone touched it.
Well anyways, I found these text from some other woman not his wife. So i asked my sis in law who this other woman was..she said she didnt know that name, and sked me for the phone...
It turns out all the text are flirty and weird..so she called this woman and she was nice to her at first..then the woman asked why she wanted to know what her dad has to do with her...and she said "well i found these text that dont make sence, because HES MARRIED"
And the woman cussed her out and told her to talk to her father about whats really going on.so my sis in law lied a little and called her dad and told him some woman called the house scareaming and yelling at her, and he denied knowing her, but of course we have prrooof on the cell phoneso we hid the phone and for like 5 days he went nuts looking 4 it
2006-10-12 09:45:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was grouchy and mean untill he got his phone back because of COURSE thats the evidence.....
what can my sis in law do, her mother DEF does not deserve this from him, suddenly money was gone, and he acts like a weird person and doesnt even pay much attention to his wife, or kids....
Should we tell her or just keep it quite???
2006-10-12 09:47:29 · update #1
it's not that i enjoy any of this, i care for my mother in law she has helped me and my family out ALOT......so wahts up with all this rudenss??....
2006-10-12 09:52:35 · update #2
i havnt told my mother in law anything....
YEah maybe i shouldnt of looked but no one deserves to be treated badly after all they do is care for others. PERIOD.
2006-10-12 09:54:03 · update #3
NOTE: my sis in laws father....has cheated on her mnother before along time ago and she wanted me to ask this....
oOKKKKKKKK so chill out shes glad i was nosey...i shouldnt have been but i was...she wants her dad to get cought, she doesnt feel this is right on her moms behlaf for the sec time...anyone wanna ague?? email me.....we can talk this all out right now....im willing to explaine more then this....all she wanted was some advice but apprently there are way to many weirdos online who have there noses stcuk in the AIR.
2006-10-12 09:58:40 · update #4
some of these responses are horribol. i mean all you can do is sCORN people. im not trying to be little miss tATTLE TALE.. my sis in law already knew somthing was going on but needed a little push.....i didnt even know that was her dads cell phone untill i realized noone knows this womans name....
they have like 25 old phones that have been shut off forever...i just so happen to stumble on it....i wanted to ask if i could have the phone to get turned on.....i need a new cell.....but i guess i got kicked in the @$$ huh.
2006-10-12 10:07:43 · update #5
It is a horrible situation that is unfair to your MIL, but you definitely need to stay out of it. It is their marriage, and they need to deal with its problems.
If you are to get too involved it could result in resentment and many hurt feelings for all parties involved. Possibly your SIL could talk to her dad about it, but I'm not sure if that's even a good idea.
You, however, without a doubt, need to stay out of it.
2006-10-12 10:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First I have to say you had no right to delve into your father in laws phone messages. Second you shouldn't have involved another party the sis in law. Third more than likely the wife is aware and/or doesn't want to acknowledge his behavior... You may be forcing her to make a decision she is not ready to make, not to mention the humilation she will feel. Butt out!
I don't condone his behavior, but you are risking a lot by being a tattle tale....
You have a need to control a situation that is none of your business.
Find more constructive ways to spend your time.
2006-10-12 09:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by easinclair 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You should keep your nosy hands off of other people's private property.
Wow.. the nerve you have. He may have done something wrong, but you would have never found out unless you violated his privacy.
You're airing this whole thing like you're on some moral high ground and in the same breath you are calling anyone one who disagrees with your actions "weirdo". Who's the weirdo?? What you found out about your father in law was by accident. And while the situation may be unfortunate for his wife and kids, you can't possibly know all the intimate details involved. But yet you're in a big hurry to stir up crap that may lead to devastating results.
I'm sorry if I seem harsh, but how do you know what's in someones heart & head? You don't. & everyone makes mistakes. Don't rush to do something that could destroy a family.
2006-10-12 09:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you to butt into other peoples business. Stop doing this you have no right to do this.
Now you found out that he is cheating. You as the non child should stay out of it from here on in. It is none of your business. If your Husband or his sister want to do something about it or not, it is their choice.
If this gets ugly and your name is involved, you will be the traitor no matter how unfair you may think it is. You are not blood and you will be seen as exactly as what you are... a busy body.
This is what happens in-laws try to do something they may think is right.
You are right, your father-in-law is more than just a jerk and what he is doing is really bad, but as an in-law you really can't do much about it. Just let his family do what they feel they should.
I realize it sucks, but you will become the enemy if you follow through on your own. But this is the consequences of your actions.
2006-10-12 09:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Martin M 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My Mom always told me never peek in a mans wallet you might find what you are not looking for.Meaning that just like your things are yours you should never go into an others persons things. If it would have been your husbands cell phone I would understand even-though I would not agree but you went to far to go into your father in laws'.You expect us to say it is OK, I don't think so. If you want to tell somebody why don't you talk to your father in law and tell him what you found and what you think.
2006-10-12 10:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by nv 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As much as I want to say to stay out it...I've been the woman scorned and I was pissed at everyone who didn't say something to me.
Is your mil in a place where she could take care of herself if your fil left or she divorced him? What is her health like? How will this affect your relationship with your husband??
Just some food for thought :)
2006-10-12 09:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would try to stay out of it. b/c you never know if he'll turn it around on you and all of a sudden, your mother-in-law hates you and doesn't focus on the real issue, that he's cheating. Let her son tell her if he wants to. He should tell his father something, that either he changes his ways and the way he treats her or he's telling her b/c she doesn't deserve this. And he doesn't deserve her. So either he cleans up his act or he'll tell.
2006-10-12 10:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a great sort of people will in all probability say "concepts your individual corporation" whether i for my area am very ethical such as you, and that i would not have the potential to maintain my mouth close. That, and my husband and that i tell one yet another each little thing so i could experience like I have been mendacity to him if I saved a secret from him. I say tell your spouse. permit her come to a call if she desires to tell her mom or not. truthfully, i think of she could desire to comprehend what sort of guy she is married to. i could prefer to renowned if I have been her. stable success, despite you return to a call. EDIT: Oh, I could desire to upload - with regard to the interest, that truly sucks. it extremely is extremely helpful to start sneaking around and putting out feelers; finding for yet another line of paintings. If he unearths out you are the only that snitched (and he in all probability will) then you definately could get fired. i could hate to ascertain that take place, yet there are different jobs. This woman (your mom in regulation) in basic terms has one existence -- why could desire to she waste it with a guy who disrespects her lots?
2016-10-16 03:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. SHe may know and may not want her daughter to know she is putting up with it. Also advise mom ot cancel Texting on his current phone so he runs up an incredible bill and has to explain that away.
2006-10-12 09:54:41 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your mother-in-law.
I can tell you from personal experience, that cheating is the worst betrayal you'll ever experience. The second worst betrayal you'll ever experience is having the secret kept from you by people who claim to care about you. That's also from personal experience.
2006-10-12 09:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋