How do you reinvent yourself?

Question

I am sick of the old me.

I know and acknowledge and am WILLING to change myself. I just don't know how.

I am NOT happy with the people I am friends with, because I just "settle" for what's comfortable, and end up being bored and sometimes secretly feel like a mismatched puzzle piece.
I have become increasingly insecure and unsure these past few years - and it needs to end NOW. The real me is buried somewhere, and it's too scared to come out completely - I just need a little push because it's almost there....

How can I reinvent myself? If you've 'reinvented' yourself - how did you do it? Thanks so much.

I know that my insecurities and stuff are ridiculous...but it's like I LET them get in the way....and I know its screwing me up so that's why I just want to start completely fresh somehow......

Answer 1

Take a look at one of the pros on reinventing yourself--Madonna. Madonna is the queen of reinventing her personality, music and style. What does she change--everything.

You need to make significant and obvious changes in your life in order to reinvent yourself. But this is tricky and can lead you to somewhat of a "culture shock". So try going neutral for a little while. Look for new friends while maintaining contact with the old ones so that you do not feel isolated and alone. You can find new friends at community centers, churches and cultural events.

Try changing your style gradually. Start by making changes around your house that make you happy. If you like a particular style of art, by a few pieces. If you are happy with your house, it can be a place of peace and give you the comfort you need during your transition. Then try changing your wardrobe and your makeup.

Develop a new hobby. Take up photography, a musical instrument, art. Do something that allows you to express the new you.

Eventually you will settle into your new persona and you will have reinvented yourself. Just remember in this process to do things that make you happy or feel good. If you take up martial arts (for instance) and don't like it, then quit. Don't force yourself into a personality that isnt you. Also, experiment. Try lots of new things so that you can discover your true personality.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 2

I have done this at least twice in my life. The first time it was not a good thing, I went off the deep end. The second time was my recovery.

Total submersion seems to be a very important key, and the easy part. The hard part is trying to decide what you want to be reinvented as. With out some motivation in that area you may find it hard to figure that one out. When I met my wife she had some idea as to what she expected in her life and what she wanted. An alcoholic smoking a pack a day was not one of them. After we go to know each other I decided that I wanted to make her happy and , this is important, I was not happy being what I was. When I started spending time with her I didn't have time to think about drinking, smoking, partying, etc.. I just though about her and what we were doing. There was some religion in there to and that helped but I'm not here to preach to you.

If you can find someone to help you decide what you want to be and motivate you, it would make it easier. Someone to bond with. Some times I still get restless and think about how I use to be, but given a little time I know it will pass because I am so happy where I am.

Answer 3

Yes, I did it long ago. I am older now and have lived 50 yrs. But I did not like myself as a teen. I actually hated myself and my life but was not brave enough to end it (Thank God).
I knew I had to do something, something radical. I decided I did not want to be poor, be like my weird mother, be like a loser, drinking alcohol, hanging with the wrong crowd. I knew inside I was better than all that.
Here is what I did, slowly but never giving up:

Learned to like my self and change my looks to suit me (no one else)
Took public speaking to be brave, and outgoing
Decided nothing not even my boyfriend would keep me from college. I went and I graduated and it was the best time ever (and I mean EVER).
Moved to a new town with new opportunities
Met and Married my College Sweetheart (he is one of a kind)
Decided I wanted to make money and not settle for just getting by I wanted big money and did it.
Decided to aspire for the best JOB that suited me and made me shine.
Did much Volunteer work for 30 years to help others, it made me not only feel good about myself but I have great memories.
Built up a better relationship with my family by keeping my cool and understanding that my way is not the only way.
Never drink to excess to dull my senses ( I like beling in control and not lettting others control me).
Decided recently to get Spiritual and read as many books on the subject as possible. It taught me to find the real me hidden deep inside. I read many Sylvia Browne (mediums) books and learn.
Make my kids my first priority over my own needs and wants.
LOVE MY KIDS SO HARD THAT IT HURTS
Be the Best parent in the World (or so I think) and never stopping.

Now to get started I suggest you evaluate your life. Write a long honest list of what you like and then what you need to change.
Every month work on another one of the thinks to change. Before you know it you can be a new person. But it takes hard work and totally changing the way you think. Like if you are always an angry person you must now think of being calm and incontrol. Don't let others upset your dirrection. Keep moving forward......You are worth it.
IF I COULD DO IT SO CAN YOU. GET STARTED NOW.

Answer 4

What I usually do is change my hair style, hair color, or clothes. By changing those things I look in the mirror and see a new me and start to think that I could change other things too like the people I hang out with, my attitude. And then I begin to change my habits.

Answer 5

first examine the people you know, and the people who you kinda know,
is there one of them, or a group of them who you want your life to turn out like theirs?

find hobbies you can do with others, and then some you can do with yourself,
nothing builds confidence than being good at something.
( you will get good at something you are enjoying)

Answer 6

I'm about in the same boat as you. Hopefully there is a good answer out there.

Answer 7

Ask Jesus to come into your heart and life.

Answer 8

Get saved!